When is it time for a new fur-baby?

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When is it time for a new fur-baby?
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Sun, 08-24-2008 - 3:10pm

I know this is different for everybody, but I just wanted to know when/if you knew you were ready for another pet after one had passed away? It's been only a month since I had my ^Lizzie^ cat put to sleep, and just recently a part of me is feeling very strongly about wanting/needing another kitty. Part of me is guilty about thinking about this so soon after ^Lizzie^ left me, but another part is just aching with loneliness and wanting a warm little body to snuggle and love. I even visited the shelter yesterday and held a little black kitty who gave me hugs the whole I held her! She put a paw on either shoulder and nuzzled her head under my chin. I just fell in love, but I didn't commit to anything because I was by myself and hadn't brought DH or the stepkids in to meet her .


But another concern is DH said he would like to be pet-free for a little while. He really didn't specify a time period, but I know it would be too soon right now to talk about getting another cat. I think I can wait maybe another month or so and maybe I can bring up the topic then.


~Caeldi~

 

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Sun, 08-24-2008 - 4:54pm

{{{^Lizzie's^ Mom}}}

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Wed, 01-28-2009 - 6:46pm

Hello.

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Sun, 02-01-2009 - 3:50pm

Hello there caeldi,

I wanted to let you know how i feel, i am one of those that can't be without one or two or.... several furkids, which at the moment is five! As everyone has reiterated..it is completely different for everyone. Some just can't bear to think of another furkid for a long time, if ever. Some, can get another in a few months, maybe weeks... just depends on your grief and how you feel about it. Lots feel guilty for thinkin of another, feel they want to honor the memory, or they plain just can't do it cuz of the pain of losing them when it comes their time.

For me, i feel it is the thing to do, get another furkid. I have always had at least 2, there was only one time in my life when i didn't have any at all, and i remember it being very lonely and i just hated it. I feel that getting another is honoring the memory of the one that passed. For me it is very helpful to have another little, warm, furkid that somehow helps me survive the grief that will come. I have lost furkids for all sorts of reasons, cancer, a few were old, and a couple passed before their time. Those are the hardest to grieve for. Somehow, for me, if they have lived a long life, or if i have done everything within my power, it is easier, than if they pass suddenly. In those times, i have had another to help me get thru my grief. It is completely up to you and what you want.

I also prefer to think that your furkid would not want you to be sad for long, that ^Lizzie^ would think it would be a good thing for you to have a new little personality to love. You have alot of love to give a new furkid. You have to have it in your head that this new one is that, a new one, it is dangerous to compare, but we all do. When i lost my baby ^Peanut^ i got something completely different, she was a red pom and Inkee is all black!! I eventually got another small one, and lost her too, so... But now i have another one that is almost as small, Dolly. She is similar, but she is older and has many health issues. She came to me from a rescue agency. The lady in charge called me first about her, cuz she knew i would give her a good home and wouldn't care about her issues. I sometimes wonder if she was sent to me by ^Peanut^ cuz she knew i needed her. Your ^Lizzie^ will let you know when it is time, you will get another and it will be pure bliss!

I hate to agree with everyone else, but it is something that is different for all of us furparents. Just hang in there, i am sure that ^Lizzie^ is very busy looking for that new furbaby just for you!! Please let us know how things go!!

Take care of yourself, ^Peanut's^ mom forever, Pawmie mom, Mary

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Sat, 02-28-2009 - 11:21am
I made the decision to adapt Smokey 3 days after Princess died. I felt that another pet who was going to be put to sleep deserved a chance at happiness and I felt more than happy to oblige. One is NOT replacing a lost baby, you are giving a deserving pet the same happiness that we gave our lost babies.
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Fri, 03-06-2009 - 9:07pm

Moe Jackson Pug and I are meeting a little girl Pug tomorrow afternoon, just two weeks after we lost our Kewpie.

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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 1:30pm
That is so wonderful of you !!! Let us know how it goes..

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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 1:47pm

It went beautifully.

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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 5:02pm

Welcome home Anya!


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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 5:17pm

Caeldi, I'm sure that as your sweet little Firefly matures and gets through her adorable kitten ways, the two of you will bond.


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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 8:58pm

Carol, Dolce is adorable.