little girls/ older men

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Registered: 11-01-2003
little girls/ older men
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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 10:21am
whats do you think about a 40+ man and an 18 year old girl dating, A guy I know just dates that age group, whats even more important to add to his list is the attraction to look at them even younger, the younger the better and he has never been married, is that normal to the general population? I am told its fabulous if a man can get someone that age, more power too him, not sure how to feel about that? I dont have daughters just boys so no experience to how to react.....just wondering what other think on this?

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 10:27am
I'm wondering why you'd concern yourself with who other people date, or marry? How does it negatively affect you or your life?
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Registered: 11-01-2003
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 11:09am
this is a poll not a judgement on my part , thats why its under "POLL" not

debate, I would like to see what other opinion on this subject is as no personal interest to me, or judgement, just for the record, thanks
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 9:30pm
I still wonder why you'd go to such lengths to find out how other people feel about it. Clearly you DO have strong feelings about it, and are looking for similar feelings in order to valide your own. That's fine, but I think maybe it would be disingenuous for you to claim that you have no feeling one way or the other. It bothers you, that's why you posted it. It bothers you enough to call 18 year old girls "little girls," and draw people to your poll looking for something on men and LITTLE GIRLS. 18 year old girls are consenting adults, not little girls.
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 10:26pm
This is just my opinion, for whatever that's worth...

An 18 yr old is an adult and can date anyone she wants to (w/in the law). So is a 40 yr old man. Everyone has certain things they want out of life. Most ppl want to settle down w/ one partner, maybe have kids, be a family. Certainly, not everyone wants a traditional family out of life. I would think that a 40 yr old man who only dates teens is one of the non-traditionalists. His idea of happiness is a young woman, not a wife and kids.

Is there anything wrong w/ that? I don't think so. I think each person has to decide what will make them happiest in life and go with that. As long as there are 2 consenting adults, I don't have a problem with it.

Kelly

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Registered: 03-09-2001
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 12:11am
Well, I call these guys "cradle robbers," myself. LOL! :D If the girl is 18, it's not statutory rape, then. She's legally an adult. If the girl is *under* 18, then in the US, anyway, it *is* statutory rape, and the slimeball should be arrested. JMO. I don't think it's fabulous a 40 yr. old man hitting on an 18 yr old; I think it's pathetic. But there's no law against it.




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Registered: 08-16-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 9:22am
<<>>

You make it sound like the only person making a choice here is the man.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 10:13am

If they are happy, who cares? Everybody's different.


-Malissa

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Registered: 06-02-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 10:48am
I have to tell you my daughter who is now 20 gets grossed out by 40 and 50 year old trying to hit on her. Sure there are some fabu looking 40 year old men, but most of the ones I remember hitting on me at 18 and the one's hitting on my daughter had and have a lot of baggage/or didn't like dealing with women the same age who had the confidence to tell them they are full of it ;)

still in the end I really don't have a big opinion either way, if an 18 year old wants to date an older man that between her and the person she is attracted to.

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Registered: 06-02-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 11:10am
>>>If they are happy, who cares? Everybody's different.<<

Well that is the bottom line and I agree.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 4:21pm
I don't personally give much thought to it...probably because I don't have any kids. But if I had an 18 year old daughter and she started dating a 40 year old man, I'd want to get to know him real well. My gut instinct would be that he was looking for someone to "control" and that she was looking for "daddy" but that's a first impression and we all know how wrong those can be. So, like I said, I'd want to get to know him really well. If they both seemed to be acting in a mature, responsible way, then I'd have no problem with it...just depends on the individuals involved.

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