9 months pregnant, baby's dad just died

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Registered: 02-11-2011
9 months pregnant, baby's dad just died
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 10:11am


I am 9 months pregnant with my first child. My child's father passed away 2 days ago and I was wondering if there is a board or other resources for dealing with this. I don't see a lot online.

Our baby is due in 2 weeks.

While sympathy is appreciated, I am looking more for how to physically and mentally deal with this. Right now I am still sort of shocked but the more it sinks in that he won't be coming back, the harder it is to stay calm.


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Registered: 03-30-2007
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 10:49am

I am so sorry.

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Registered: 01-20-2004
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 11:24am

Hi there -

I'm very sorry for your loss. We do have a Bereavement & Healing board that may be what you are looking for.

With sympathies,

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Registered: 02-12-2011
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 3:58pm
Hi What you are doing now is the best suggestion, reach out to others either through the internet or through a local organization, family and friends. Last love again.
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Registered: 02-12-2011
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 4:01pm

Hi my name is David, the best remedy is reaching out and when the time comes love again.

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Registered: 02-11-2011
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 6:40pm
Thanks. This sounds like excellent advice, altho I don't really feel like doing much of anything right now.
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Registered: 01-18-2011
Sun, 02-20-2011 - 3:12pm

First of all I am so sorry for your loss. My husbands dad died 2 mo before he was born. My mother in law was 19 yr old. If you are interested I can try to connect you both via email. She is a phenomenal human being...Blessings...

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Registered: 10-28-2005
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:03am

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you and the baby are doing as well as can be expected. I'm not seeing many choices but we do have a Loss of a Parent board. While this is mostly geared to losing your own parent, I suspect that there are others out there who are looking for support with you and might try looking there also.

I hope you can find the support you need.

Sending lots of hugs,

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Registered: 11-14-2011
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 12:03am

hi, i am going threw the sam thing and it's funny but my baby is 9 months old now so are baby's are the same age too. I lost my baby's father in august. I know how you feel and i know how hard it is to look at your baby and see him. I feel sad everyday. It is hard doing it alone isnt it!? I hope you are finding the strength you need to get threw this and be a happy