He wants me to move in and I don't want to...help
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|Sun, 08-04-2013 - 10:14pm|
My boyfriend of six months wants me to move in with him and I really don't want to. I rent an apartment, he owns a condo. By moving in we could save on rent, utilities, cable,meals, etc, etc. By living together we would be together on a daily basis, which is not the case now. After leaving a very hurtful, long time marriage and after living with my adult children for several months I was finally able to be on my own. I really do love this man but worry that I could very easily be homeless if he decided we were done. Where could I go? Not back with my children. What about my belongings? I love my apartment and the home I have created for myself - does my stuff go into storage, get sold? His place could not accomodate two households of furniture, dishes, decorations, etc.
Let me state that we are in our sixties, both very healthy and active. We enjoy a very satisying and playful sex life and have yet to have a spat over anything. Our interests, activities,food likes/dislikes, music tastes are compatible and we enjoy and like each others families. We love each other very much. As far as finances go, I am retired and able to get by with spousal support and SS. He is collecting a pension, SS and is working part time.
So, I guess my questions are: how do I gently tell him no to cohabitation without hurting him? How can I make him see just how much I have to lose if we ever broke up?
AS i stated, we love each other very much and plan to be together for the long term. Or each others" final love" finally.
Thanks for any advice.