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Registered: 09-24-2013
Tue, 09-24-2013 - 11:38pm

I just had my suspisions of my husbands infidelity confirmed by listening to a conversation he was having with a friend via Butt-dial.  He has admitted to SEVERAL Affairs.  I am devistated.  He has been seeing one woman for 10 years and she is an employee of ours.  Of coarse, I fired her.  I am a mess and need advise in the worst way.  We have two children together.  A daughter 16 and a son, 9, and I three grown children from a previous marriage.  How do I do this?  I am so confused.  Friends and family ALL insist I'd be a complete fool to stay.  I love him.  UGH, Help...

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 2:12am

  Do not make hasty decisions.  I have been through this but it took me 24 hrs to burn out.  It turned out I made a very good choice.  I am hard.  I am also wise in the ways of the world and a a lover is not a big a deal as some would make it.  The idea to run right out and leave is in my opinion stupid.  There are a lot of things to really soul search.  Too many get a divorce but are never happy about it .  You are the only one who can make yourself happy anyway. 


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Registered: 01-20-2004
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 1:34pm

Hi there,

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. You may want to post on our Betrayed Spouses board. They'll have the best insight and suggestions for you.

Good luck!

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