my boyfriend won't climax!?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2014
my boyfriend won't climax!?
Sun, 06-15-2014 - 11:07am

I need help! My boyfriend and I finally decided to get physical. We have been together for a little under a year. I can sit there blowing him or giving him a hand job for over thirty minutes and he 1) won't cum, and 2) won't stay hard long enough for me to quickly hop ontop and put him in. I have no idea what I am doing wrong. I have tried being naked, being soft, being aggressive, even talking dirty while this is happening. I really need help, a lot of my friends think I waited to long and he is sleeping with someone on the side.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2008
Sun, 06-15-2014 - 4:27pm

It might not have anything to do with what you are doing. 

Some males experience delayed ejaculation. 

If he isn't able to maintain an erection there could be some type of circulation issue so physiologically it might help to get checked out to see if there are any health conditions (or medications) interfering.   If all systems check on a physical level, then it is important to look at what might be going on emotionally / psychologically.   

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-24-2005
Thu, 08-14-2014 - 7:22pm

Hi JaJa, The  post below yours has a lot correct information in it. While many people assume that a man's equipment should work as what they've experienced in the past or know about, there are many more factors that come into play that could be underlying issues. A trip to a doctor would be in order and maybe with his permission you going in with him to add more information that he may be too embarrassed to talk about. Many men don't want to talk about any failures on that subject especially telling about all that you are doing to try to help him to, - well, - you know...  JaJa, you sound like you're doing all the right things and from what you've posted the things you've described would make a lot of men really happy.   Tommy