Relationship - Cant do them???

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Registered: 05-02-2014
Relationship - Cant do them???
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Sun, 05-25-2014 - 5:23pm

Hi, Already had good discussions about "Trust" on here.  I am 45 years old and really have problems having relationships.  I was married for 11 years "he left had an

affair" then I was on my own for five years.  Meet another guy who moved in with me after six months, I thought he was lovely to start then drinking, porn and abuse started

he was also cheating.  Then on my own again for seven years, not interested in men! meet another guy (coach driver) in March 2013 we got on really well, but I didnt

hear from him until May 2013 was sorting himself out after his 6year relationship ended (she cheated apparently?) but he was chasing other women between his

break up and me (left his facebook open one day) so I feel second best (Last resort) as they never took him up on his offer of drinks.

He is a very flirty person, friendly and polite part of his job to be apprently...... but I struggle big time with this.  I know I am insecure and have very low self esteem, been

to counselling but I just cant control my out burst when he mentions going away for a few days, or ladies day etc.  I cant be with him 24/7 no one can, and we live seperately only

been a year

together (not making that mistake again - moving in).  He is supportive but I just think I would be better on my own forever?  and never get involved with men? I constantly

say he is cheating on me while working as his job is shifts etc.  I know if I keep on he will think may aswell then.  I really dont know what to do......help please thank you 

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 1:59pm

Hi! You may want to try our Working On Your Relationship board.

Best of luck to you!!

Erin
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