Was I raped?

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Registered: 06-10-2013
Was I raped?
Mon, 06-10-2013 - 5:15am

After a night of smoking pot, I was awake for just a few minutes. I was laying down in my date's bed. We both got about 2 hours of sleep. He starts touching me, trying to get me in the mood, I guess. I yelled, "Stop!" He did for a moment. Then he put his hand under my skirt. I moaned because of what he did with his hand. He stopped. Still with my eyes closed, I went back to falling asleep. All of a sudden, he is inside of me. I froze. I could not talk nor move. I wanted to cry and kept thinking, "Stop! Please Stop! Just stop!" But I could not say anything. I just laid there frozen. All I wanted was to sleep before this happened. Was this rape?

Avatar for cmerin
Registered: 01-20-2004
In reply to: Jen4244
Mon, 06-10-2013 - 11:15am

Hi There,

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. You may want to post on our Sexual Abuse Healing board. Also, here are some resources for you to check out. Please contact them if you feel you were raped:

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network

Domestic Violence/Abuse
Domestic Abuse Hotline for Men and Women
http://dahmw.org/  1-888-743-5754
What is abuse? http://dahmw.org/what-is-abuse

National Domestic Violence Hotline
http://www.thehotline.org/   1-800-799-7233

National Childhood Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453

Wishing you all the best,

Community Technical Assistant | Community Moderator

Avatar for cmkarla
Registered: 01-03-2001
In reply to: Jen4244
Mon, 06-10-2013 - 11:53am

Hi Jenn,

I am so sorry you even have to ask such a question. I have some information for you from the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN) that may help: Types of Sexual Violence

Please do talk to someone in real life about what happened. {{hugs}}

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Registered: 06-02-2008
In reply to: Jen4244
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 11:21am

Hello Jen,

Erin and Karla have given you resources and I'm sure it's a lot to take in right now.   They both brought up RAINN and there is another page on the RAINN website that helps people sort their their experience http://rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/was-it-rape  Maybe you have already seen it.

I am the CL of the board that Erin mentioned (Sexual Abuse Healing). You can come post there if you would like but I agree with Karla that hopefully you can talk with someone in real life as well.  I know it can be difficult to talk about stuff like this and being willing to just ask the question on here is a huge step. 

I wish you the best as you work through this.