Why are married men so attracted to me

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Registered: 05-11-2001
Why are married men so attracted to me
Fri, 04-11-2014 - 5:24am

I dont flirt with married friends. I listen to them as any friend would.

They get to know me and want to be closer. But i need a single man.

Exp older married men. Then my best friend that is male married gets mad when men talk to me

He lives with his wife but bitches and complains my male friends stop.

I know he loves me. But i dont want to wait for her to die in 10 yrs. Shes old in bad shape.

I need someone now. For 10 yrs another married man been hitting on me.

He asked if i have questions. Why me? His wife is gorgouse, what im not.

Ppl say the inner me is what they love. or i attract drunk scum. 

Im sick, fat ,feel old . I Cant work. i have nothing to give but friendships.

Why do married men see who i really am but single men dont? 

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Registered: 08-25-2013
Fri, 04-11-2014 - 11:59am

It sounds to me like you are putting out vibes and giving older married men signals that you are okay with dating them. Otherwise they wouldn't have anything to do with you. Start focusing more attention on younger unmarried men. Stop "listening" to married men and they won't be interested in you.

Oh, and please don't tell us you are falling for the "wife is in bad shape" and could die any time now story. It's one of the oldest tricks in the books for older married men to keep a younger mistress hanging around. If he loved you that much he would divorce her and be with you. Don't waste your life on a cheater, find someone of your own.

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Registered: 06-03-2005
Fri, 04-11-2014 - 1:14pm

anncarmen wrote:
I know he loves me. But i dont want to wait for her to die in 10 yrs. Shes old in bad shape.

Uhm - what?!!?! *IF* he loved you, he'd be with you. He may get jealous about other guys talking to you, he may even honestly have feelings for you, but make no mistake here, if he loved you, there would be no waiting for his wife to die. That's just a horrid thing to say anyway. Wow. 

I agree with the other poster, stop talking to married men like you're married to them. We have friends come over, we all joke, talk etc., but I would NEVER talk to any of them so intimately about their lives that I would be in that position. Go out, find some single friends and hang out with them. Ditch the BFF for a while too, definitely. Join a book club or something.