Reminder to the board

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Reminder to the board
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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 12:55pm

Hello everyone; I hope you all had a relaxing weekend and are ready to start a brand new week here!

I wanted to take a moment to encourage everyone to stick to debating the topics and refrain from making personal remarks to and/or about other members. While I realize it can often be difficult to ignore someone who seems to be intent on causing a disruption, opting to report and ignore rather than respond in kind is the best solution.

While personal comments that poke and prod another member are not allowed, responding to that type of post only furthers the disruption and can result in violations, since each individual is ultimately responsible for the content of their own posts.

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Registered: 11-27-2009
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 8:57pm
Reporting does little to nothing. There is no ignore feature which would help immensely for those posters that seem determined to bait and misrepresent, especially when reporting continually goes ignored.
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Registered: 08-01-2011
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 10:51pm

I think we need to be very careful not to report people that think differently. Thinking differently doesn't necessarily mean that a person wants to be disruptive. There are a variety of opinions out there and we need to understand and embrace our differences of viewpoint. If we get rid of people who hold different viewpoints, this board will turn into a string of like-minded leftists just like on TV. For example, Barbara Walters calls her show "the View", but there is only one left wing liberal view expressed across the panel. Whenever the "conservative" girl tries to say anything that "rocks the boat" she gets talked over and and shouted down and her message doesn't get out. When the New York gay marriage passed, the VIEW panel all embraces it and cheered for it, not caring that halt the country (their TV audience) is opposed to it. Please, people let everyone express their views without running to the "report" button. It takes a lot of different people and viewpoints to make a world.

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Registered: 11-27-2009
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 7:59am
I don't report people for thinking differently. I report people for violating TOS. Usually it falls under this clause:


{“You further agree that you will not use the iVillage Network to send emails or instant messages or post on message boards, blogs, profiles, comments or any place on the iVillage Network, any message or material of any kind or nature that is unlawful, harassing, libelous, defamatory, abusive, threatening, harmful, vulgar, obscene, profane, (unless within the scope of the topic area of a message board as determined by iVillage in its sole discretion), racially offensive, inaccurate, or otherwise objectionable material or that encourages conduct that could constitute a criminal offense, give rise to civil liability or otherwise violate any applicable local, state, national or international law or regulation, or encourage the use of controlled substances. For purposes of the immediately preceding sentence, "masked" vulgarity, obscenity or profanity (e.g. "f*ck") is deemed to be equivalent to including the actual objectionable word, phrase or symbol in your post, message or otherwise on the iVillage Network. iVillage reserves the right to delete any such material from the iVillage Network. iVillage will cooperate fully with any law enforcement officials and/or agencies in the investigation of any person or persons who violate the Terms of Service contained in this Section 6.” }
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 11:43am
Thank you Brenda! Wise words that I, personally,will try hard to stick to! :)

 nwtreehugger  

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Registered: 11-27-2009
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 12:43pm
"While personal comments that poke and prod another member are not allowed, responding to that type of post only furthers the disruption and can result in violations, since each individual is ultimately responsible for the content of their own posts. "

comments that poke and prod are certainly allowed, you are correct though I have seen that comments in response to those "not allowed" posts that never get pulled and start the decline, those posts do indeed get pulled.

I just don't understand it. It reminds me of how bullying works in the high school, it's never the kids that instigates, it's the kid that is pushed to the point of defending themself.
Here, the posts that insight and bait get ignored, but typically it's the one's that call it out- Pulled.
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Registered: 12-22-2000
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 1:03pm

I am sorry you feel that way; however, no reports are ignored as each and every RAV is reviewed. That said, we are only human and definitely not immune to error, so if you would care to email me those links to posts you feel are in violation of our Terms of Service, I will be most happy to review them again.

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Registered: 11-27-2009
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 1:16pm
If I kept links to them, I would gladly send them on to you. However, I don't do that so I have nothing to pass along and to be honest, I really don't have the inclination to try to remember what thread and then if I could identify them, read through all the posts. As you know, with this new system it's harder than every to back track to old posts.

I did try this in the past before the change in format, the response is always the same; no explanation. The process seems to be completely subjective, the reviewers personal biases (and we all have them) end up playing a part in determining when someone violates TOS. It's the way ivillages system is set up. It's a shame that it allows for insighting and baiting posts to remain, and flagrant violations such as masking vulgar words, and it's the person that objects that whacked. Seems like a better approach would be to whack the baiting posts and remove any attached to stop spiral. It's just my experience though; I imagine that there are others that have completely different experiences. Maybe I should start cataloging posts, but I don't see myself doing that at this point.
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 1:42pm

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