Let's End DADT NOW!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Let's End DADT NOW!
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Thu, 11-25-2010 - 9:08am
I've written my Senators, and now I'm asking you, my friends, to write yours too. Please tell them it's time to end the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy.


I understand many might not agree, but let me bend an ear for a moment. These are men and women already serving our country but who have to keep their lives secret. While their fellow sailors and soldiers, officers and enlisted, can have friendly chats about kids and their families, commiserate about relationship problems, and get support during a break up or for the loss of a partner, the gays and lesbians in our armed services must remain quiet. They cannot share the joy of a new commitment nor even the birth of a child without fear of being outed. They even must be more than discreet about going on a date for fear that someone will see a hand being held or a kiss exchanged. Despite the public statement the military will not accept outings by others, it happens all the time, ruining careers and even making future employment difficult (this is not an honorable discharge.)


The LBGT community doesn't seek special treatment, merely equal treatment in honor of their willingness to serve. Don't we owe them that much?

Sandy
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Registered: 02-19-2008
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 5:05pm

"Maj. Magaret Witt was outed by the disgruntled husband of her lover. A straight service member suffers little repercussion for such an indiscretion, but she was kicked out of the service for it."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 5:24pm
Don't Ask, Don't Tell doesn't mean don't have a life. It means don't talk about it with your CO, don't mention it to your fellow service members.

Your interpretation of DADT is much like the Catholic Church's stance on homosexuality--it's OK so long as you NEVER act on it or even think about it. Considering that, can we go back to throwing straight service members out for adulterous affairs? Heck, the service has even been known to cover up child abuse (though the case I know the man did get an HONORABLE discharge for it.)
Sandy
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Registered: 02-19-2008
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 7:10pm

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Registered: 03-03-2009
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 11:54am

You made my point for me.

Jabberwocka

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Registered: 09-26-2010
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 9:46pm

"If DADT is repealed, it should only be after ascertaining that there will be no compromising of either top command priority; accomplishing the mission and ensuring troop safety."

Shouldn't the same about 10000000000X over be said for:

We should not launch a war and put our troops in harms way based on flimsy trumped up evidence of a non-existent threat of WMD or ties to al Qaeda?

We should deploy only the best available body armor and vehicles to protect our troops?

We should use competent contractors so our troops are not electrocuted in the shower?

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 10:14pm

I'd like to see this policy end for a number of reasons.

Sopal
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Registered: 09-24-2004
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 10:43am

Just to add...a news article out today points to the results of that study done within the active duty military.

Sopal
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Registered: 09-24-2004
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 3:13pm

Well the report is out, and it is more positive for the repeal than I originally thought:

Sopal
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Registered: 03-03-2009
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 6:02am

IMHO, most of the questions you raised are valid ones, though I hope to goodness that we aren't "running" countries (other than our own!).

Jabberwocka

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Registered: 02-19-2008
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 8:36am