Lost job

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Lost job
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Sat, 08-03-2013 - 10:45pm

I did not realize that iVillage has a board for job loss, that is good, should have searched sooner.

I guess I am unsure if I should be posting, but I will take my chances on writting about my job loss, as I am not ashamed or embarrassed.  Just very sad.

I was let go or fired from my job on Valentines Day.  I had worked there for 12 years.  I was a hard worker, had not ever been written up, and was liked by co workers and clients.

The reason I was told I was let go was because I did not attend the montly manditory staff meeting which occured on the evening of Valentines Day.  My boss informed me it was considered, "a no show for work".  When I was called via phone from my boss 2 days later, I was asked a few questions, then told that I was no longer an employee at the agency.  My mouth dropped, I was in completed shock!  I did not think I did anything to even be close to be fired, ever.  I was told it was because I had missed the meeting.  I was asked to "resign" via email.  I asked to come in and talk about the situation, but was told a decission of my termination had already been made.  

I took this very hard, and still do.  I was strongly encouraged not to resign (by friends and family) for various reasons, so I did not.  I would assume then that I had been fired.

I was told I will get an excellent reference when I apply for another job.  I am a stay at home mom currently.

As anyone could imagine, I am still shocked and still in tears about this.  I am leaving out details of the person who did this, as I am not out to blame anyone.  I should have went to that meeting!!!  If I would of know I would be fired, I would have been there.  I have some anger towards the whole situation, but as I have been advised, I have to keep that to myself, not that I would do anything anyway.

Ok, well, I feel a bit better finally being able to openly write about this.  I thank you all for reading.

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Avatar for guili12737
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-1997
In reply to: sunset5000
Sun, 08-04-2013 - 11:05am

Hi Heidi. I'm sorry to hear about your job loss. It's very frustrating when you feel that you are unfairly let go. I experienced a similar thing. I was let go after a difference of opinion with my boss. It wasn't even an argument. I just told her I thought that her ideas were not the best way to go. Stupid me. A week later I realized they were looking to fire me as they started to give me a series of bad reviews. That was 3 years ago and since then I have worked two long term temp assisgnments but have not gotten another permanent job. It's been incredibly hard on me.

I wish you luck and I hope you find something else soon.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
In reply to: sunset5000
Sun, 08-04-2013 - 2:46pm

~hugs~

<3

I am so sorry Heidi...:(...

Lorie

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: sunset5000
Sun, 08-04-2013 - 6:10pm

Thank you so much for your reply.  I am sorry to hear that you experienced a similar job loss.

Like you mentioned, I think my new boss didn't like me or maybe didn't agree with my ideas and wanted things, "his" way.  I feel it was his way of making changes in the organization that he wanted.  He was not interested in my 12 years experience of old ways, so he probably would of found a different reason to let me go in time.  It is so hard though to accept though, you know?  Missing a meeting?  I was a dedicated employee.  I don't understand.

sigh......

Avatar for sunset5000
Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: sunset5000
Sun, 08-04-2013 - 6:11pm

Thank you so much, Lorie!  

Hope you are well?

Hug

Avatar for Cmmelissa
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: sunset5000
Mon, 08-05-2013 - 3:48pm
That's awful, Heidi :( I never will understand how bosses can do this to their employees in such a manner. Fired after one no show and 12 years of dedicated employment???? I'm glad that you didn't resign, that was a good move. These are the situations when I have to believe in karma,

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-06-2001
In reply to: lizmvr
Fri, 08-16-2013 - 12:04pm

I don't understand the rules when it comes to collecting unemployment following a resignation versus a firing. Is there a better way to leaving that will more likely allow a former employee to collect unemployment? I guess I realize that being laid off is one thing, but resigning or being fired, I thought, would make it harder to collect unemployment.

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Avatar for guili12737
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-1997
In reply to: guili12737
Sun, 08-18-2013 - 10:23am

It depends on your employer. I was told that I could resign rather than be fired. Resignation looks better on your employment history than a termination. My former employer told me that if I resigned they would not dispute my claim for unemployment. I DID resign and subsequently collected unemployment with no problem. The department of labor knows that these types of deals happen all the time so if you can have some kind of deal with your former employer, resignation could work out better for you.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 10:29pm

You were a threat to the new boss, plain and simple.

You had "historical knowledge" of the company, department and position you held. You probably were a threat to him or her and they used the missing meeting as an excuse to fire you. Indeed, I'm wondering why you didn't apply for that job yourself or if you did and didn't get it?

Also, how was the invitation to the staff meeting worded? Was it deemed "mandatory" attendance? Is a meeting on a date like Valentine's Day normal for your department? I'm not suggesting business come to a halt for a social holiday like Valentine Day but it seems odd to me you were fired for missing this particular meeting, especially if it wasn't deemed "mandatory" by the department manager.

You have nothing to apologize for or explain to a new employer. You put 12 years at that job and I'm sure you have plenty of positive stories to tell that would help you get the next job. In fact, if asked "why did you leave your last job?" You can honestly and confidently state: "A new manager determined I did not meet his/her expectations." If you need to say anything more, you can say, "I was let go for not attending a staff meeting scheduled on Valentine's Day 2013."

Offer nothing more. Indeed, say nothing bad about the company or the person who fired you. It may surprise you that these individuals are often "known quantities" within a certain industry and they leave a trail of bodies behind them everywhere they go. I know, I've worked for a couple of them.

If you want to return to work I think you'd be wise to lauch a new job hunt this fall. It's a good time of year to get back into the game. You can easily explain your non-working months by simply saying you felt it was a good time to focus on your children and take a few months to decide what to do. Again, volunteer nothing more and focus on what you want to do.

Good luck. Don't let this firing define you or keep you from succeeding. I've managed to overcome two such experiences in my working life and leave my detractors in the dust. You will too.

Avatar for sunset5000
Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: sunset5000
Sat, 08-31-2013 - 6:10pm

Thank you all for taking time to respond and give imput to my post.  I appreciate everyone's comments.

I will try to respond to all the comment and questions.

Yes, it was a "manditory" meeting.  I was told via email about a week before that we were having our monthly staff meeting on Valentines Day.  The new guy that was my boss had been hired about 2 months prior.  I did get a eerie or unfriendly vibe the day I met him at work.  I had always been friendly toward him.

Believe it or not, I was told by him via phone that the reason for myself not being a employee there anymore is due to missing the meeting.  He stated it was considered, "a no show for work" which he said was grounds to terminate my employment there.  I had never been written up, no warnings.  He actually told staff when he became our boss that meeting were manditory, but if for some reason, we were not able to attend a certain meeting, to let him know in advance, which is what I did.

I was very shocked and not sure at the time if I should do what he requested and resign.  After talking to several people, I was advised not to resign, but rather was told, "make him fire you if he wants".  To me, it did not matter which option I did, all that I cared about was that I was not a employee there anymore.  

I now wish I would have attended the meeting.  But, you know what?  Don't you all think that he probably would have found a different reason then to terminate my employement, as he may of felt intimidated by me?  If that is the case, I would rather be fired for missing a meeting, then he watching my back and trying to find something in the job I did wrong, which I think would of hurt my pride.  Does that make sense?

Applying for unemployment was not something I wanted to do.  I have talked to someone in human resources and was told that this will not effect future references when I apply for a new job.  And, I agree with the poster on here about just being honest in a interview and tell them the truth about what happended when I left my job.  I am not ashamed.  I should have went to the meeting, though.

Any other thoughts?  Thanks so much for letting me write about this, it helps alot.

Avatar for sunset5000
Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: sunset5000
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 10:36am

Did you know that on some job applications, you are asked if you have ever been fired or asked to resign from a job?  It has been so many years since I did one, as I had my job over 10 years.  I was so sad to see that.  I am doing my resume first, but if I get a interview, I will have to be honest about why I left my last job.  As mentioned, I didn't do anything wrong, other then not attend a meeting on Val Day.  I am so unhappy, I thought I was done with this topic.  Now I feel like a failure again.

Thanks all for your replies, I appreciate the support you all have provided me.

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