A Bad Boss Can Affect Your Family

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Registered: 11-13-2008
A Bad Boss Can Affect Your Family
Tue, 07-09-2013 - 2:22pm
  1. The stress from having a difficult boss can carry over into your personal life, affecting both your physical and mental health, your marriage and overall family happiness: 

Hammer said, "In the research literature there's correlational evidence that when parents are more stressed, kids are more stressed. Kids experience that stress, and it comes out in terms of health compliance, it comes out in terms of behavioral difficulties."

Managers and supervisors are a primary source of work support -- or work stress.

"Lack of support or abusiveness of the supervisor can spill over into home life, both in terms of the time and energy that it takes away from people, but also if it affects their mood," Ford said. "That can, of course, potentially affect the life of your family members."

Read more: http://www.ivillage.com/family-life-affected-bad-boss/4-a-540970

I'm sure that most people would agree that unhappiness or stress in a job will carryover to the rest of your life.  I know it's affected ours at times when my husband is particularly stressed.

How do you deal with it when you find that your job is causing issues outside of work?  I know it helps for my husband to exercise, taking long bike rides where he can work off some of the frustration.  

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Tue, 07-09-2013 - 5:52pm

Does your husband talk to you about work issues that are stressful? My boyfriend won't always want to share--he'll just say that he had a bad day or hates his job. Sometimes I think talking about issues with me might help him, but I know it's possible that the concern I'd want him to have for my work issues might not be what he wants for his. I do agree that work stress can translate into more stress at home.

I do think at times that it's important for me to give that stress and the worry a set amount of time and then really work to let it go for the rest of my time out of the office. This can be difficult for me especially since I work from home, though. I know it annoys J, my boyfriend, when I'm not enjoying our time together because of my thoughts of work, and I have to remind myself that I owe it to him and our relationship to not focus all my energy and time on work but to give us time and energy, too. I'll also admit that I'm way too prone to bury my work woes in frozen yogurt than extra exercising :) 


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Thu, 07-11-2013 - 1:36pm
He doesn't like to talk about it for the most part, because it just brings it all up again, but that can have negative results because he keeps it all in. It also can be hard to talk about it when the other person doesn't understand the job or the technical aspects, but just venting helps me. Guys are just different!