New job - not happy

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Registered: 05-14-2012
New job - not happy
Sat, 03-08-2014 - 3:22am

Hi, Ive just started a new job and finding it hard to settle in.  Basically its in a small office with about 9 people.  The office layout is like an L shape and unfortunately my desk is around the corner from everybody else and to make matters worse I am siting right next to the boss who I hate.  The people are nice but I'm always feeling left out because I can hear them having a laugh and chatting and don't really have a chance to join in because of where I am sitting.  I sometimes have an excuse to get up like getting a drink or going to the loo then I can make a point of joining in while im away from my desk.  At the end of the day I know im there to work but it bothers me that I feel like an outsider.  My boss is the only person who I dont like there, and its not even because he is the boss.  I just don't like him and I feel the feeling is mutual.  He thinks he's god and reminds me of a male chauvinist pig.  There are akward silences, I just don't feel like I can relate to him.  I can't really complain that I don't like where im sitting just because im missing out on office chats.  Any ideas?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 03-08-2014 - 10:28pm

Did you interview with your boss before you took the job? 

As you said it yourself, you are there to work.  Just focus on learning the ropes first, friendship with others may come later.  Regardless of where you sit and how your boss is, it takes time for people to warm up to a newcomer in any kind of group setting and it seems a  bit unreasonable to expect everyone to treat you like his/her best friend right away.

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Mon, 03-10-2014 - 12:25am

Demontespan is right in my opinion.

How long have you been working there? The others, including your boss, are likely trying to get a feel for you yet, too.

I did find what I think is a helpful article online:

9 Steps to Acing the First 90 Days on the Job

I hope it gets better, and I expect it will if you give it a bit more time and effort in focusing on your work.

Good luck!


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