quiting new job dilema

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quiting new job dilema
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Thu, 09-04-2014 - 3:34am

Help....

Last year a business aquaintance of mine asked me to come on board as a part-time field manager for her company.   Said it would be part time and and we could work around my schedule.  I have been building a business of my own and during the slower times that would be a great way to supplement $$$.  I did one project for her, went to a consulation with a major client I would be working with and then got notice that we would be starting a project in May.  OK, I could do that.   But then May came and went. It was delayed but  stayed in touch, went to networking meetings on her behalf.      Meanwhile my business got very busy, crazy busy and I now have a backlog of projects of my own.  

Then On august 20th I got an email ssaying we would be starting  in five days, do not really now how long the project will take.     OK, I jumped on board just because I said I would and with really no time to even think about it.  . With no prep about the project but am supposed to supervise and train a team.     Big stress.  

I've tried to find out just what my schedule will be. Twice we sat down and talked about it and twice it has changed.  Then today, while I was supervising she left a little note on my desk saying she'll be back when I have to leave.   I found a printed up schedule also which I found to be very sneaky.  No dicussion with me at all about this even though that was also our agreement,  We would work around my schedule. .   She did not get back in time and I ended up being late for my own client.  When I got home and read the schedule it had changed again and all kinds of hours assigned. Split shifts, 12 hour days. etc.     I responded via email saying I am available as per our agreement yesterday and these are the times i can work the rest of the month.    I had just signed up for some personal health classes ( yoga, etc) to take care of myself and to ended up cancelling them to work for her.  

However, as I really give this some thought and as much as I want to keep my commiment I realized i can not do both her buiness and my business justice by trying to do both right now.  Really bad timing and I really got no notice by which to re- arrange my own business shcedule.  The stress of never knowing what is going on at her job plus trying to get all my own work and client's taken care of proving to be just too much.  I want to leav now--not wait til the end of the month.  I am just getting off a very busy season and need a bit of streess free time and time to get my back log donw before my nest big rush in Novemeber.   

Last year when I did a project for her I could be available, it was really slow time for me and a very short project.  And I could deal with the stress of her "flexibility"  Now I am not dealing with it well or the learning curve involved in starting each new project and picking up after nearly a year since the last one. 

  I did hire one person who is overqualified for her job and would be a great supervisor and has no other committments and could use the hours.  I've suggested that we look at her for a back-up supervisor.  

So what can I say to her to get out of this and not burn bridges.  We see each other all over town.  


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Thu, 09-04-2014 - 3:43am
See each other all over town and also I just like her want to keep the connection but just can not committ to being the on call field manager like I thought I could at least not for these projects at this time. I have worked for her in the past and have had a great friendly professional relationship since 2007. Do not want to ruin that but just can not do this at this time.
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Thu, 09-04-2014 - 10:04am
How much time to give her?
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Thu, 09-04-2014 - 10:08am
and do I tell her in person, in email? YIKES. Now that I think about it, I haven't wanted to leave her in the lurch but then giving me only 5 days lead time has left me in a very tight spot. The longer I wait to bail the worse. So nervous about this.
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Thu, 09-04-2014 - 11:28am

I'd tell her in person, as hard as that might be, and I'd be completely honest and tell her it's just too much. Honesty will go a long way in keeping the relationship. As for time, a minimum of 2 weeks would be professional. Giving her to the end of the month would be best. But if you have someone in place to take over, then I'd go with 2 weeks. At least offer it. GL!


demecafe

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Thu, 09-04-2014 - 1:02pm

I agree with the other poster. Tell her the truth in person as soon as possible. Honesty is best especially since you don't want to burn bridges.

Brenda

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Thu, 09-04-2014 - 3:03pm

It is a 4-8 week gig. The two months that I need to be catching up on my own business backlog and getting ready for a very intense 4-month period of my own starting in November. I can not be burned out by November. I already told her I could work only mornings for the next 4 weeks but the more I am thinking about it even that is going to be too much with everything I have going on. Physically this work is already killing me. The office chairs are so bad for my back Two days in I am already having pain in my back and legs. I want to leave ASAP. I know she has been talking about how I'll work for her for a long time coming on board whenever she has a project. But I can not be on call like that. I do need myself a time to get my own business projects in order to accommodate her projects. 10 days is all I had. Not possible. Yes, I know I need to be honest thinking of just saying. "As much as I was looking forward to working with you on projects I am realizing that these current projects have come a a very bad time for me. It is proving to be too much with everything I have with my own business now and other personal things going on so I am not going to be able to continue. I'd like to end tomorrow but would be willing to stay to train another person. How do you feel about asking B to move into supervisory for this?" There is no time to talk privately with her other than giving her a phone call late at night. She is working shifts from 8am - 8 pm 7 days a week. Thanks hope you can answer ASAP. I am on my lunch right now.

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Fri, 09-05-2014 - 12:05am
Thank you everyone for you input. With much deliberation I came up with a solution and a letter I just sent her. Here is what I wrote. "I need to talk with you about my working for you on the current projects. Since we’ve not really had a chance to talk privately in person I am writing my thoughts here and then would like to talk in person sometime tomorrow after the morning shift. I so much enjoy working with you and have been looking forward to working on these current projects. In the past, I was able to take on your projects on short notice and weave them into my schedule, making it a good situation for both of us. However, things have changed for me quite a bit in the past year. My business has taken off, which is requiring a great deal more of my time and effort than before and I've had some health concerns which require me to pace myself as well as I can. Although I thought I could squeeze this project in, I've tried and I simply cannot. My summer was extremely busy with long work hours and I have many sewing contracts to fulfill for people whose projects have been put on hold for all the wedding deadlines. After this week of trying to do both your project and my business, I realize it will be too much and too stressful even with working only a few hours every day. If I continue this, I would not be taking care of myself and I would not be being fair to you. It is with much disappointment that I realize I cannot continue working on this project like I’d hoped after this week. I knew that I was on overload when I panicked today just thinking of going to get ingredients and making my cat’s food. I understand this is unexpected –it is for me too. However, I have an idea that may help you bridge the gap. If you have no one else in mind, I would like to suggest GB as a replacement for me on these projects. I see that she has a good grasp on this and comes with five years experience in market research including supervising call center teams. I am willing to come in Sunday for 3 - 4 hours if that would help the transition. And if needed I would be glad to help out on the weekend you will be gone but I would need to know by September 15th. I always enjoy working on your projects and appreciate the opportunities. I value my association and friendship with you and if available would love to do other projects. I deeply regret that I can't continue to do so right now.
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Fri, 09-05-2014 - 1:24pm
Just want to let you know I ended up talking to her and it all went very well. Thanks again