Tired of being treated like a mushroom

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Tired of being treated like a mushroom
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Mon, 11-05-2012 - 1:22pm

Hi all,

I don't think I've ever posted on this board, but if I have, it's been years.  Need to vent, but also need some help.  Please bear with me...

Just a little background - I have 20 years experience as an Executive Admin.  I've been at my current job for almost 4 years.  Because of how our office is set up, 70% of our company is on one floor, and the other 30% is on the other floor.  From the day I started there, things were great, I felt like I landed my dream job.  Wonderful people, great pay & benefits, etc.  About 2 years ago, I was told my job would be "changing".  While I was still going to be an Exec. Admin, in addition to supporting the 30 or so people I was hired to support (in addition to one of the VPs), I was then going to be supporting an additional 10 people from another dept.  Apparently their Admin was being "reassigned".  I supported those 40 people for about 6 months before I was then handed ANOTHER department of about 10-12 people.  Mind you there are only about 120 people in my company and 5 Admins.  I was supporting 50+ myself.  A temp Admin was finally hired earlier this year to "take back" the additional 20 I had taken on.  I've spent the last several months training her as well as continuing to support all 50+ people (no additional pay, no pats on the back, NOTHING for any of this).  Last week I found out this temp Admin was being permanently hired in ANOTHER department!  This morning she tells me that I'm going to be reponsible for taking over her current workload.  I'm not against helping out, or backing someone up, but this is insane. Not only that, but why am I getting this news from a TEMP ADMIN?  I was furious!  I would assume I'd hear this from either my boss or someone in HR.  Mind you, the last 2 times there was a "workload transition" I was also told by the other Admin - not my boss or HR.  After getting this fabulous news this morning, I talked to my boss.  Turns out, he knew NOTHING about all of these changes - and he's a VP!!!  Needless to say he's NOT happy.  This is the 3rd time HR has gone behind his back with regards to who I'M supporting and MY workload.  Oh, and now I'll also be responsible for training the new temp - whenever that is.  Word is that won't be happening until after the 1st of the year.

Additionally, over the last year or so, I've noticed that the other Admins seem to have distanced themselves from me.  I have no idea why.  I'm on a totally different floor from them, don't get mixed up in the office gossip, drama, etc.  We all get along just fine, and are friendly with each other but it seems that since I'm on a different floor than all of them, I'm "out of sight, out of mind".  It goes without saying that their behavior towards me can be VERY hurtful.  Now that this temp Admin will be moving to their floor (she had been sitting near me) I will once again be alone.  I'm so sick of always feeling left out, being in the dark, being sh*t on (aka, treated like a mushroom).  There is NO respect or common courtesy.  My own boss is a great guy, but he's a bit strict (no leaving early, no long lunches...plays by the rules), yet the other Admins can come & go freely, leave early when they need/want to, etc.  I don't know if the other Admins distance themselves from me b/c they know how strict he is, and they don't want me or him to "ruin their fun".  I've addressed some of these things with one or two of them, and they just blow it off.  Then, they go behind my back and talk about me being  complainer. Are you kidding????  Last year over the holidays EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM got to come in & go home when they wanted.  I had to stay b/c my boss (who wasn't even in the office for 3 weeks) told me I should be there in case someone needed something (they office was practically empty for 2 weeks).  Was I upset - yes.  This kind of thing always seems to happen to me, but I rarely complain about it b/c I know it won't do any good.  Anyway, I'm just fed up.

I don't really want to quit my job (can't afford to), and the thought of a job hunt is depressing.  That being said, I'm tired of going to work every day feeling like everyone else is treated like an adult, yet I'm treated differently.  My boss tells me repeatedly that I'm doing a great job and my yearly reviews reflect that.  I'm so sick & tired of the "cliques" these women seem to be in, and sick of not getting treated with respect.  What do I do?  I need some words of encouragement.  Thanks.

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-06-2001
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 2:57pm

First of all, don't just believe what any of the other admins, especially the temp admin, tell you.  Get your directions and information from your boss.  You did the right thing in asking him about what you were told, and really, try not to stress about situations that are coming from others with no authority over you.

If you aren't able to well support so many people, do sit down with your boss and explain to him that you want to do your best job for everyone you support.  Line out a plan of what you can do well and see if you can get his support for you to do just that.  If you're still going to be tasked with work beyond your means, make sure he understands that it's setting the office up for issues to fall between cracks and that you don't want that to happen or to be blamed if that does occur.  Also, ask him about benefits you can get for going above and beyond.  You shouldn't be scared to ask for more compensation if you're doing so much more than you were initially hired to do.  Point out your worth and ask for fair compensation for all of your efforts and achievements.

Keep good notes about tasks assigned to you and your completion of them.  Present these to your boss and make sure he understands all that you are doing.

If you want to be closer to the other admins, you will likely have to make more of an effort yourself. Maybe suggest a weekly lunch date with them.  It can be meeting in a break room together or going out, but be friendly.  It might take more than you've already felt you've done to really build office relationships with them, but it might be worth your efforts if it helps you feel included and in the loop regarding office changes.

Good luck!

Liz


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Registered: 11-22-2012
Fri, 11-23-2012 - 8:40pm
Have you taken a vacation lately? Could be you're stressed out and starting to take things personally when they have nothing to do with you. Does it matter who relays the news, as long as you get the news? As a superior admin you may feel left out by management, try to put your feelings aside, remain professional. When you start to take your job and what is happening personally you are to absorbed in your job. The best thing to do and what I would do at this point, is to think of taking a few days off, atfer that just focus on your job responsibilities. The worst thing you can do is to get wrapped in on what is happening somewhere else in your company, or as in your case; other admins. You can talk to your superior about how you're feeling about your surroundings. Another option you have even though you don't want to go job hunting is to see what is out there, I would take a few days off and talk my manager before seeking a job elsewhere though.
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Community Leader
Registered: 06-06-2001
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 11:31am
That's not a bad idea! I have been feeling the same way lately, and I know I need to use some PTO, especially because I'm going to lose it by the end of the year :( Holidays sometimes only seem to add stress to already stressful working situations... Thanks for the input!

Liz


Clinical Research Associate


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Registered: 12-03-2012
Mon, 12-03-2012 - 6:19am
I would seriously recommend taking a break. When you are continuously burdened any new news can be negative. Even breathing exercises during a lunch break can help! And for some revenge relief - watch Love Crime with Kristin Scott Thomas if you want to see revenge in action!