Very very strange coworker
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|Sat, 04-06-2013 - 10:04am|
I need advice on how to handle this situation. I work with a very strange man. He is in his 60s and set in his ways. Well mostly. I cant figure him out and he is making me miserable. My stomach hurts and I am losing sleep. Its been going on and off for over 10 years now.
He makes insinuating comments that border on inappropriate. I am a runner and injured my leg a while back. He walked into work one day and asked the small talk question 'how are you doing?' I told him my leg hurt. His response was "too much running, cycling or rough sex?'. I ignored that one. He teases me about my clothes (I wear conservative office clothes). He teases my kid who once visited my job (she is special needs). He once lectured me on the rules about drinking before work, even though I have told him many times throughout the past 10 years that I do not drink. He once lectured me on how many sheets of scrap paper to use and said that I should use his left over written on sheets to save the company money. I think I use 1 sheet per day, maybe less. He once lectured me on what types of books I should read. I was reading self help books. He said I was mentally fit and did not need self help books. He tries to take over every project I do. He does all this on the pretense of being helpful or a friend or kidding. He doesnt understand the fine line between being helpful and being annoying or stepping on toes.
This all seems to go in cycles. He gets annoying and I confront him. He gets better but then months go by and he is back to his old ways. I am sick of the whole thing. I dont think he has much experience working with women. In my field there are very few women. My field is 75% white men. I think he feels threatened by a younger female who can do the job as well as he does. And i think thats why he puts me down often.
I need help and advice on how to handle this.