Feeling awkward and not sure why
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|Thu, 04-04-2013 - 12:52pm|
I work for a big company with many different departments on different floors. I work in the HR area. Another man, I'll call him "S", works in IT on a different floor. S and I are both married with children and our families have many friends in common. We run in the same circles, so to speak, but we aren't friends ourselves.
Several months ago, I called about an issue with my computer and had the opportunity to chat with S a bit. We talked about kids and other small talk. After that, I would see him around (the elevators, cafeteria, hallway, etc.), and he was friendly and nice and funny. He stopped by my office a few times in this period, and he would ask me how I was, and we developed a somewhat small-scale aquaintanceship. I had thought maybe our families sometime could get together because he seemed nice, and we all kind of know each other (thought I definitely did not mention this). Then one day, something changed. I have no idea what it was. He went from going out of his way to say hello to avoiding eye contact. He started calling my coworkers whenever I had a computer issue (like when I was out of the office or at lunch, even though I would specify the best time to reach me), and coming in to look at things when he knew I would be gone.
One say I had a flat tire, and he saw me in the parking garage, with a jack trying to fix it myself, and he didn't say a word. Now I feel awkward. Whenever I have a computer issue, I try to fix it myself. I feel like I'm not "allowed" to call him for help or say hi or anything. It's very weird. I know I can come off as flirtatious (I'm outgoing and friendly), but I'm never inappropriate or forward. I can't think of anything I said or did that may have been offputting.
It normally wouldn't be a big deal except that now that I have picked up on the awkwardness, I don't know how to ignore it and return to acting normally. Even my coworkers are starting to comment on the fact that S seems to go out of his way to not talk to me.
Now I feel like my motives are constantly being read the wrong way, or I make people uncomfortable, or I shouldn't talk to men. I don't know. Anyone ever get this?