Not sure what the next step should be....

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Registered: 12-30-2011
Not sure what the next step should be....
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 11:38pm


Im in a bit of an emotional situation with my career path. I have been a hospitality event consultant for the last 7 years and have learned alot good, bad and ugly. Each job position that I have had in the industry, i have left some a more advanced role. My current job i destest with a passionate, I currently am a contractor for a company to plan their meetingsand events. Each day i feel as of i have to come into work, play/smile the political game and watch people threw each other under the bus. My position is not rewarding. Just a quick background, i relocated from FL to DC in which where i grew up to take this job and hoping that after 3 months i would move out of my moms house. Guess what, 10 months later im still at my moms house fusterated b/c my job does not bring me happiness or motivates me to be comfortable to leave the nest. My job right now only looks good when it comes to the every 2 week paying period. If you ask me what I love, i want to pursue my wedding consulting business but im scared of the risk and investing in something that may or may not success. I would hate to loss my savings and still not be able to move out of my parents house. I also looked into another industry, but I feel has if I dont meet the qualificated due to everything needs some sort of degree which i only carry a hospitality management degree. Im fusterated b/c i want to love my career/job, move out of my parents, begin a serious relationship and start a family once i have a somewhat of a secured job.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 1:00am

My first piece of advice about your business idea is: BEGIN! Take small jobs here and there to get a sense for the market in D.C. for the wedding business. Like, get a gig as a gopher for a big caterer, florist, or other wedding vendor. You probably have the contacts all in place, you just need to tap them. Keep your day job and use the part-time position as a way to gauge whether you want to go all in the wedding business there.

My second suggestion is invest in a book called "Eats, Shoots, Leaves," which is a guide to grammar and spelling. Did you type your post in a hurry? There are numerous spelling, grammar, and sentence structure errors. I point this out not to be mean and petty, but because it matters. You don't want to appear illiterate in communication, even here.

As for whether you live with your parents or elsewhere, it's time to responsibility for yourself and your choices. If you really don't want to live with family, then you have to get busy and address your discontent whether you stay in D.C. and keep working, or move back to Florida.

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Thu, 08-29-2013 - 11:22pm

Wisdomtooth has given you a lot of good advice.

You need to shift your thinking a bit and rely less on your job to make you happy. You have the ability to make changes that will positively affect your life, and you have the power to shift your thoughts to be more positive, too. If you are noticing people throwing others under the bus, stop thinking about how awful they all are and see your situation as an opportunity to be grateful that you're not under the bus, to realize your own ethics and integrity, and to better realize how you want to conduct yourself and your future business without involving the politics that you don't like--difficult situations allow us to learn better what we want in life. You're in an opportunity, and you can take steps to pursue your own event or wedding planning business, learning along the way, and creating even more opportunities for yourself.


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