Pantene Women At Work Double Standards Ad

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Tue, 12-17-2013 - 12:00pm

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/pantene-ad-women-work-viral-21190642

What do you think? Have you come across double standards at work?

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Wed, 12-18-2013 - 4:27pm
I work in a professional office where women are expected to wear make-up and dresses or skirts are preferred. All of the bosses are men who sometimes wear suits and can have facial hair. I am a project coordinator for my boss and assist with client needs. There are several guys and girls who have not been with the firm long (including me) but for some reason I am typically asked to bring coffee, water and soft drinks to conference rooms. None of the guys ever have to do this and on a rare occasion one of the other girls will be asked but mostly it is me. Also, I gather much of the client information and help put together many of the presentations but during client meetings, including lunches and dinners, I am rarely asked for my opinion.
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Mon, 01-06-2014 - 3:50pm

Stephanie, do you offer your opinion without being asked or do you keep it to yourself? I'm wondering if you do keep it to yourself when not asked if you feel intimidated by your coworkers, female and/or males.

I haven't personally felt that much of a double standard necessarily in most of my workplaces. It might be because I'm in an industry where there are many working women.

Liz


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Wed, 01-08-2014 - 9:59am

Hi Liz, I would say things are pretty normal with my coworkers and I do offer suggestions and my opinion. With the bosses, in a one on one situation, we have regular dialog too. It's during the client meetings/ entertainment events where the work related topics are kinda like "remain quiet until asked". When I first started chiming in I would be talked over and my thoughts completed by my boss. After several different occassions of this, I understood how it is. The other frustrating thing is the "drink service". Sure I am young, fit and take care in my appearance but why am I mostly called upon for delivering coffee and water to conference rooms? There are other girls who could do this and certainly the guys could handle it, at least for their own meetings. 

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Tue, 01-21-2014 - 12:02pm

I'm glad you keep offering your opinion :) It does sound like you just have to play that game a bit in meetings, but I'm glad it seems you have good dialogue with your bosses in one-to-one situations--I think that must show that they respect your input.

As far as the drink runs, maybe you're wearing too sensible of shoes? :) Have you ever declined getting drinks, maybe by saying you are currently focused on a different, but seemingly more important task like a follow up email? I wouldn't want your coworkers to think that you have nothing better to do than fetch coffee. On the other hand, if you sometimes look at it as a chance to do something different and a bit more active and like it, then maybe just try to think of the drink runs that way more often.

Hope you're enjoying the new year!

Liz


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Wed, 01-22-2014 - 12:21am
Hi Liz, yeah, still offering my opinion but being smart about it. Sensible shoes, no way - haha. Early on I tried getting out of the drink thing but I would get a response like "it will only take a minute" or "no one else is available" so I kinda stopped fighting it. Anyway, just dealing with it while gaining more experience in my career.....