2 more phone calls and 2 emails

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
2 more phone calls and 2 emails
8
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 3:56pm

So, after having a week of breathing room, he called again today.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2011
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 5:34pm
There are actually a number of websites, including spokeo, that pull address and phone info from your credit report for public access. You may check there. If he has your social and a few other identifying things, he can easily pull your credit report. Spokeo and most other websites will remove your information if you request it. It's so irresponsible of these companies to freely provide this information to anyone and everyone.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2011
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 5:35pm
Also, if you've taken a cell phone picture in or around your house - if he got access to that picture from facebook or anywhere else, he is able to track the location where the photo was taken. There is a gps stamp embedded in most camera phone pictures.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 7:12pm
No. No photos. I think he might be lying. There's no way he actually thought I'd be home, I'm wondering whether I should email him jus saying:

As I stated before, toss my belongings. The credit card was cancelled. Please stop contacting me. I do not wish to hear from you again. Thank you.

Thoughts???????

Or do I just ignore as I have done???
Avatar for cajunharmony
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2001
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 7:26am
Phili, what is is doing is 1) stalking you, if he truly has found your home and is going there and 2) harassing you by continued contact despite you telling him to leave you along. IMO, it's time to go for that order of protection. Please contact your local DV agency and talk to them about obtaining one. These are all attempts to engage with you and it doesn't look like he's going to give up despite your ignoring him. It's time to take legal action. Good luck and keep us posted. YOU are doing great though, by maintaining NO CONTACT. Just continue to ignore, but get that PO or RO and put some teeth in your words. Good luck.

Mama Harmony

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 1:56pm

Thanks. I was thinking of doing that....I don't know though. Its sad....I keep thinking of the reaction I am going to still get from him when I do that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2011
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 2:01pm

You are my hero when it comes to maintaining no contact. It took me forever to realize that it was for the best (for me). You can look at how many times people told me to have no contact. It was and still is hard for me sometimes. My advice to you would be to ignore the calls, texts and emails. However, when I did that my stbx got more aggressive. He then started accusing me of stuff and being more harassing.

If you feel unsafe or have the "gut feeling" get an order of protection. That is what my counselor said and also the book by Lundy (which is great).

Wow, I never thought I would be giving advice. I guess I am not really, just letting you know what worked for me. I hope things go well for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 9:46pm

I can only tell you what worked for me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 12:46am

You don't have to see him in court to get a restraining order.......what you DO have to do is save all the messages, emails, texts, etc.