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|Tue, 03-15-2011 - 1:52pm|
Hello friends. Im from the UK i hope you dont mind x
I come here with a heavy heart but a lot of positive feelings too....
I have been married for nearly 26 years , it has not always been happy , when our 2 daughters ( now 24 and 20 ) where younger , there was a lot of abuse , emotionally and physically.
Our eldest daughter left home when she was 18 as her dad told her that she would never amount to anything..yet shes totally turned her life around...ive told her proud i am of her , but he never has , he only sees fault with her. Our youngest daughter can do no wrong in his eyes and gets everything shes ever wanted......its always been like that , ive always tried to make up to our eldest so shes never felt left out and in the same breath if you can understand , i always treated them both the same and equally.........if i got 1 thing for one , i got it for the other , they were always as precious as each other to me.
About 12 years ago our love life and sex life seem to come to a great halt.......it was about this time that i developed M.E./CFS.
At the time i was quite ill but still craved love and sex......which i beleive is a natural thing to do.
He kept saying i was ill and that should be last thing on my mind , but on the other hand contined to moan about nothing being done in the house!!!
During this time we went through 3 very close deaths including the death of his mother and my mum and dad.
I still however needed love and wasnt getting it , even though i was giving it him.
Like i said there has been a lot of emotional abuse and when he told our then 17yr old daughter that she wouldnt amount to anything because she started doing kickboxing and became that good in a short space of time that she needed a uniform or proper kickboxing kit so she could enter a competition......so he told her that she couldnt have it because she didnt need it because she wouldnt amount to anything.......i at the time had no money myself otherwise i would have got it myself , it broke my heart.
Luckily me and my daughter have amazing relationship and we talk everday , she now has a 4 years daughter , my grand daughter ,which he also moans about , but i tell you what , shes