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is this abuse?
| Mon, 09-19-2005 - 1:10pm |
i posted previously on the depression board about how my husband refuses to move back to my home state where i can solve our financial problems by getting back into my field. right now i have a part time job that i do not like and all my money goes to bills and food. i spend very little on myself. my husband buys me lots of gifts. and he has told me if i ever need money to just ask him. yet when i do, i get an attitude everytime. the other day we were going on a day trip antiquing. i told him i was almost out of gas and i don't get paid for week and didn't have enough to fill my tank. well you would have thought i asked him to move a mountain! he says to me "i figured you would need money" really snotty. i was very hurt. it was his idea to go on this trip taking my car bc my gets better gas mileage. i was hurt and i told him so and his reply, "sometimes you act like i have an endless supply of money" mind you i was aking for gas money not money to buy a fur coat. then the other day i came home and was thinking about our money situation at work. my husband asked me what was wrong and i told him and he said don't worry about the money let him worry. so i just replied "i can't help it sometimes" and under his breath he says "well i am the only trying to help it" i was so hurt. and his excuse is always "i'm tired i don't know what i'm saying" i could easily fix our money problem if he would quit being so stubborn and move. if i went home i could get back into IT and triple my salary. so basically he won't move but it's my fault we are struggling. i don't know what to do anymore. he buys me stuff and then the next minute he's saying hurtful things. he works overtime and acts like it's "his money." while i put all my paycheck into our bills and groceries. he refuses to use his OT to pay anything but has money to waste on crap.
i'm at my wit's end here. any advice?


Welcome to the board bigred...
I too am in the IT field so it's always good to see another woman doing the IT thing.
Hi hon -
Your situation, while not violently abusive, is still abusive.
CL-Blueliner4