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Is this abuse?
| Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:55am |
When you are in a relationship with someone and the person is threatening to kill themselves if you leave, or kill your animals, slash your tires, take all your money, etc. are these threats some kind of emotional abuse? Or at the least, emotional blackmail?

This is definitely abuse.
Please read everything you can on this website, about the signs and patterns of abuse, and wait for further advice/help from others on here. I'm not an expert, but I wanted to give you a reply to your post as soon as possible so that you know that someone is here to listen to you.
I do know this; YOU are NOT responsible for someone wanting to or threatening to take their life - most of these threats are empty threats in order to bully you into staying - HOWEVER, it would be helpful that you come up with some kind of safety plan because you (and your pets) could be in danger.
There are many on this board that sadly have been through situations very similar to yours, and are far better equipped to give you advice on how to handle your situation, if you should you contact the police, find local shelters or counselling.
I did read somewhere that when anyone threatens suicide you should contact their families and tell them.
Keep reading and posting here!
Calla, delurking from upstairs. Or is it downstairs?
You have a right to be worried, and you may even have the grounds to obtain a restraining order against him, depending on where you live.
Good luck!!