Is this abuse??? I despratly need advice

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Is this abuse??? I despratly need advice
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 6:50pm
Hi everyone. I'm new to the board. I'm Samantha, 23, married, two little boys and I'm a full time student (no job, unfortunatly). I grew up with a very abusive father. I guess I've been degraded and abused for so long that I don't even know what it is anymore, what is normal. So here's what's going on, in the shortest form possible. I think my husband might be verbally/emotionally abusive. I suggested this to him and he laughed and said I was too sensitive and dramatic. Basically, he says mean things everyday. To him, it's joking around, he thinks that it's funny. It hurts me and he knows this. We've been dealing with this for over a year, even going through marriage counseling (the counseler quit on us and said I should leave before I had a breakdown, that was roughly a year ago). Ok, just some examples: The other day a friend of his came over. We were out on the deck and it is 'move-in' weekend for the new college freshmen. All Mark (husband) talked about were the hot new girls in town, even his friend looked a little embarassed. He knows I have a history of eating disorders, why would he talk like this?
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Registered: 03-24-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 7:16pm

The thing that really struck me was your 2yo son, and those hideous words that came out of his little mouth.

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 7:41pm

Tracy,


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