abusive ex

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Registered: 06-26-2004
abusive ex
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 9:45am
I've been separated for 3 yrs now. My ex was very physically and emotionally abusive to me. (Me only, not the kids.) Well, he is still abusive, but in a way that is even more hurtful to me. I have two kids with him, and the kids see him every weekend. The problem is he has basically turned the kids against me. When it is time for them to come back to me, they don't want to come back. He tells them things like, "you are going to be living with me soon" and tells me "the kids don't want you. He is CONSTANTLY saying these things in front of the kids. It is fun over there and they have no rules. So when they are back with me, all i hear is "I want daddy" or "I want to live with daddy." The kids resent it when i tell them they can't go over there during the school week. I'm always the bad guy. This all has just been so depressing to me, worse than the abuse I put up with in the marriage.