Abusive Men : A List of RED FLAGS

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Abusive Men : A List of RED FLAGS
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Thu, 09-23-2004 - 2:17pm
List of Red Flags:





1. He pushes too far, too fast, planning your future together right away.

2. He hates his mother and is nasty to her.



3. He wants your undivided attention.



4. He must always be in charge.

5. He always has to win.

6. He breaks promises all the time.

7. He can't take criticism and always justifies his actions.

8. He blames someone else for anything that goes wrong.

9. He's jealous of your close friends, family members, and all other men.



10. He always asks you where you went and whom you saw.

11. He has extreme highs and lows that are unpredictable.



12. He has a mean temper.

13. He often says you don't know what you're talking about.

14. He makes you feel like you're not good enough.



15. He withdraws his love or approval as punishment.



16. He pushes you to do things that make you feel uneasy, like taking the day off from work or even breaking the law.

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 2:41pm
I wanted to share the List of RED FLAGS and I hope it helps bring light to anybody that may question what kind of relationship they have.

I was always questioning myself about the relationship I was in ... not knowing if I was over reacting to certain situations, or if I was just plain crazy for thinking that the man I loved was abusive.

After reading the list, it was CONFIRMED for me that this was a serious situation that I was in because "ALL" of the 16 things listed were as if they were written ESPECIALLY for me.

This list is off of Oprah.com/relationships. If anyone is interested - please go there and read. It helped me realize where my life was heading if I didn't do something to get out of the abusive relationship I was in.