Ahmed's wife...

Avatar for silvermoon458
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Ahmed's wife...
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 10:38pm
(I wanted to respond to your post below -- under She's Here -- because I did not want this to get lost down there. Hugs!)

Hi Sweetie. I am glad that you have an easy, contented baby. She must be so precious!

I think many women on the board here can relate to having to have a hot dinner on the table, a perfect house, clean children, clothes always ready for him, etc, etc, etc. The lists are endless, aren't they? It is controlling behaviour that abusers use to keep you on your toes, always on eggshells wondering when he will explode next. It is his way of making sure you have NO energy to think about yourself and what you want.

Sweetie, you do NOT sound lazy in the least. You have SO much on your plate, and I know that you love your children deeply. Any woman who does all that and is constantly hounded by and in fear of an abuser would be BEYOND exhausted. You have every right to complain about not having help in your home. Your needs are important, even if he tells you they are not. He will make you feel guilty, likely, for even wanting to lie down for fifteen minutes.

I hope that you have the chance, with all that is going on, to keep coming to the board, posting and reading. When you can, please read the information on the homepage (the link is at the top of the board). It will help SO much to see that you are not alone in what you are going through.

Please keep posting. We are here to listen, and we care!

Hugs.

Christine

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi