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| Mon, 05-02-2005 - 9:04am |
I'm so lost. I have been living with my bf for six months now (in my hone, which I own). I am 27 and he is 35. Last night, at @12:00 a.m., I was in a deep sleep. My bf came in to tell me that he had a hair in his eye from shaving and needed help getting it out. I was in a deep sleep and I thought he said that he missed a spot shaving. Then a few minutes later, I hear him screaimg that he can't find the flashlight. So I yell to him where it was and I fell back asleep, only to be awakened by him screaming that I'm the most self-centered person he knows and he doesn't understand why I won't help him. So I get out of bed and walk into the bathroom where he is. He starts SCREAMING at me and saying things like" I can't wait til this relationship is over". He also called me numerous names. Then he kept screaming that something was in his eye and he needed help getting it out. So I asked him to sit down so I could see. Well then he got even louder with the names and the screaming, so (though it was wrong of me), I yelled back about how he's an idiot for yelling at me over a hair in his eye and if he would calm down, I could help. He then lunged at me three times, though he never touched me, but he acted like he would. He went on to say how horrible I was for getting upset over him yelling at me. He demanded that I leave the room, but I stayed for a minute and tried again to help by asking him to sit down. He then slightly pushed me and shut the door.
I don't know what to do. This man lives in my home (with my 6 year old daughter). Is this my fault for not understanding what he was trying to tell me while I was sleeping. Should I not have yelled at him. I am so lost.......

I must commend you for owning your own home at the age of 27, that is awesome.
Yup, definitely abuse on his part. It's not your fault he escalated along the way. He deserves to find his bags in the driveway, locks changed, and 911 programmed into your phone in case he makes noise about it. He has no respect for you or your baby (or your neighbors for that much).
Take care of yourself, Bluebird.