Almost six years ago ..............
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|Tue, 04-12-2011 - 12:20am|
My ex husband attacked me with my son watching. DS was nine at the time and wanted to help but didn't know how and his jerk of a father threatened to hurt him if he did. I still have no doubt in my head if DS had done anything at all to help his father would have hurt him so in my mind DS did the best thing by doing nothing. DS has emotional issues and did before this happened and normally when there were fights or stress or a change of any kind DS had a melt down. That night he did not which was good because I was having a hard time handling my ex husband's!! But now every May DS has a melt down of his own. I know why DS does this and right now I fear we are already building but in no way am I making an excuse for hi. He is old enough to start understanding why he gets like this, but remember he does have emotional issues and emotionally he is not 15, and find other ways to deal with this time of year.
He has four trigger times of the year and it sucks to know they are coming and not being able to stop them. The last couple have been pretty bad and I am not looking forward to May and am trying to figure out how to get him though this without the melt down that I fear is coming. But every year the May one gets worse as DS gets older and thinks of what he would do now.
So please if your staying for the kids think about my DS and how every May he can't handle what he saw but then every September he morns he loss of his father (also it is the start of a