always something

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Registered: 03-26-2003
always something
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 8:10am
I think I told you all about how my dh threw away my desk fan and how that started a fight. My nephew and his girlfriend are going to have a baby. So I have been saving things for them as they are young. I saved one of those $60 play yards, plastic gates. It was outside in the garage. My dh moved it to the truck and I told him I wanted to save it for my nephew and not to touch it. Okay he told me. Guess what? He threw it away because it was in his truck. I was not the one who put it there, it wasn't in his way as he never uses the truck that often. So I told him I was glad he was so free with my stuff. So that was two days ago. No real fight about just exchange of words, I let it go. It didn't bother me as much as the fan did because my dad had given me the fan and my dad died last year (dh-didnt know this but thats not the point-its mine dont throw it away). So this morning I wake up to this email:

>>another example of your hypocrisity, you bitch about me throwing away some stupid >>plastic fence but you gave away all my display swords and axes. its okay for you but >>not for me?

Two years ago he threaten to cut me up in little pieces with the sword pointed at my throat. I called the police and they didn't think the sword was such a display sword. It was long and had a point. No it was not sharp (he always points that out) but it could have easily pierced me and split me in two. He is off probation for that in Nov. He has two battle axes that were also display ones, I gave them away at the time. The sword is still at the county sheriff ofice, evidence. I told him I do not want another sword/battle ax, display or not, in this house. Do you blame me? Is this hypocrisity? This was two years ago when he threathen to do me harm. I mean come on it has nothing to do with anything now or him throwing my stuff away.

All this and I finally got a good job (that I have been trying to get forever) that he should be happy about.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 2:15pm

I agree, he's trying to compare apples and oranges, in a sense (while you did get rid of the "display" weapon - which still could have inflicted serious damage - I would have done the same thing had I been threatened, too).

CL-Blueliner4