Am I abused or crazy?
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Am I abused or crazy?
| Tue, 01-04-2005 - 7:17am |
I have been with my husband for almost twelve years.When I first met him he was gentle and sweet.He has a great relationship with his mom who is a lovely woman.In his past relationships he was nothing but sweet.We had problems from the very beginning.I curse he doesnt like it.I drink and he hates it.I do not beleive in serving men and his mom does.When we were together 8 months we got in another argument and he slapped me.Over the course of our relationship we became more violent.Sometimes I would hit him and vice versa.Once he gave me a black eye another time he bloodied my lip and blackend my eye.On that occasion I called the police.My family and his were angry and thought I was wrong.Everyone knows my husband has always been sweet until he met me.He was never violent until he met me.They think that means it is my fault.I do curse at him and spit at him when mad.Does that mean it is my fault when he is violent?Recently he scared our daughter by spanking her and now I want to leave.He has been my only love and has been a good provider and great father up to now.He has helped me in the past and regrets any violence.Should I go and am I abused or crazy?There have been about 10 violent attacks in 12 years.

Hi Loca, welcome -
No, you are not crazy.
CL-Blueliner4
Hi locamujer and welcome.
You are just trying to be yourself and he should be able to accept that. You need to read like blue said and learn more. This is not your fault. It took me years to figure out why I could go to work all day and be at peace, then when I got home it was so stressful. I was under the total believe that I was the abusive. Old Wendell and his family had me convinced too that there was something wrong. I thought I was crazy.
Bottom line is NO ONE should ever hurt you. They have no right. Read and learn and try not to worry about what they think of you. Think of what is best for yourself and your well-being.
Terry