Anyone else?

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Anyone else?
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 4:12pm
Well it's been three weeks since I've left my H. My 17 month old son and I are staying with my parents. Here's my problem I filed for Divorce, TRO, Temp. custody & Supervised Visit and the judge approved it June 1st. We have been trying to serve H the papers but he is totally dodging it. It's been two weeks without any contact with him and I just am running out of patience with this. The process server is attempting a stakeout on him with no success so far.

H knows whats going on because my attorney has had contact with his mother and I'm sure she's told H what is going on and that in order to decide whats going to happen with our son custody wise he needs to sign the darn paperwork and get things rolling. I just don't know what to do I feel like handing the papers to him myself.

I am pretty sure he is trying to build a case against me by saying that I'm trying to take our son away from him. He claims to want to be with our son and says that I'm keeping him from our son! He even had the police come over and check on us after I stopped calling him The police told me since there was a pending RO that I did not have to call him at all. Then he lied to the police (real bright move) the next day and said he had not heard anything from me (the cops that came over the day before told him that everything was fine and to not call me anymore) So the second officer apologized to me for disturbing me and said she would again tell H not to call me.

I don't think he realizes the longer he puts the divorce paperwork off the loger it will be for him to see our son I'm just sitting here waiting and the ball is in his court now...which of course I just realized that is exactly how he likes it.


Anyone else ever have to deal with this waiting game. Any thoughts or help would be great.

Thanks