Anyone have a magic wand? Vent.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2005
Anyone have a magic wand? Vent.....
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 5:27pm

A magic wand to go "poof" and let this whole thing be all over with......... I've been doing pretty good, but today lost it again and started bawling at work. My oh so sweet H was instant messaging me, wrote repeatedly, "I hate you" about 15 times, just kept typing it in over and over again. He told me I was evil, that he couldn't stand the sight of me and can't wait until he never has to look at me again. I don't know why I even engaged in a conversation with him, but, threw the whole statement of how cruel he was being again, and that was why I needed to leave. He told me that I need help, that I should really get help for my "hating men" problem that I have. I asked him why nobody else noticed that problem, to which he replied "they do, trust me". Whatever, I just want to crawl into a cave and hide.

I want to move out, I just can't afford to make the mortgage payment along with rent for myself. Does anyone know the legal ramifications to my leaving and not helping with the house payment? My name is on the loan, so, I know my credit would get shot to hell, but, I just can't stand being in this house anymore. The tension is building with him, I'm starting to get scared he is going to do something stupid again. Life is just too short for this..... It's so hard to imagine how someone who says they loved you could talk to another human being that way.....

I have a realtor coming to look at the house tonight, but, know that we owe more than what we would get for it, ugh:( Thanks for listening to me vent.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 7:26pm

Try looking at the board website.

5yrssm 
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2004
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 10:15pm
Well the worst that could happen would be that your ex cannot make the payment on the house alone, and they foreclose - ruining your credit. That doesnt sound so horrible to me, but some people feel more strongly about that than others. You could also refinance. If your bf wants to keep the house just refinance so he can take over the loan.
Or maybe you're in luck and with the rising home prices you can just sell the house and leave and if you're real lucky make out with a few bucks in the end. Good luck....