Anyone here had counseling?
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Anyone here had counseling?
| Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:54am |
I'm thinking of going for counseling, I just found out there wouldn't be a fee in my income level, but I'm scared. I'm afraid I'm either fine, and don't need counseling, or they'll think I'm crazy and send me to a hospital or something. Has anyone ever had counseling?

Hi there
yes, indeed, I have gone to individual counselling (just a few sessions, my company was only willing to pay for 4 sessions)
I actually found it sort of therapeutic - found a way to deal with my anger and frustration, though it was too short a time to figure out how best to deal with my husband and make sure he changed his behaviour.
So now (3 years and 1 baby later) he is slipping down the slope again (not that he was well behaved these past 3 years, it's just that it wasn't "completely crazy" and he had honeymoon periods in between)
Anyway don't worry about the counsellor treating you badly or thinking you're one with the problem - most of them are well trained and need to know that you are in an abusive situation so that they can help you the right way.
I had counselling for about a year and a half about a year ago. I found it to be a life changing event.
I have had chronic depression my whole life and she helped me realize that I am still a good whole person and not "crazy" for feeling out of control and depressed sometimes.
She helped me understand why I felt the way I did and helped me find ways to cope and to deal with my stresses.
It is very good therapy to talk about everything I found and a good therapist is reasuring of your thoughts and feelings and helps explain things.
I say go for it and give it a try. There really isn't anything to lose and it may make things feel much much better.
Good luck (((HUGS)))
When I decided last August that I needed to get out I specifically decided to find a counselor who would help me. And I can say that without her being there I may not have had the courage to finally leave. She was a rock of support to me. When I would waiver and feel guilty or sorry for my abuser she would remind me of things I had told her and she would help me work my way through the two realities in my life - reality through my own eyes and the bizarre reality of living with an abusive man. I cannot tell you how grateful I am to this woman for her help in taking back my life.
I think that counselling can be a wonderful tool in helping ourselves. I would give it a try. Trust yourself. You will be able to tell if the person you are set up with is someone you can trust. Remember that you have a right to decide to work with someone and not to work with someone if the person does not feel or seem right to you.
I know for myself that getting counselling is one of the best things I have done for myself. I wish you all the best.
Kristina