Asking for some advice .......

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Asking for some advice .......
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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 7:06pm

Things are still so not good. STBX is getting more & more crazed & irrational.

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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 10:50pm
I have been reading your posts for some time now and I feel fortunate that at least I don't have to worry about children in my situation, your poor daughter..... In your last post though it made me think of a service that we have here, it's grant funded though so I'm not sure how many of them are out there. But it is a safe exchange center that allows for drop offs and pickups of children where the parents do not have to either communicate with one another directly or see each other during exchanges. There is a sliding fee. Like I said, maybe I've missed something before and you have looked into this already and it isn't available, but, I would try to avoid communication or sight of him at all costs, he just uses that time to further abuse you. I'm glad you have your little one seeing and talking to someone, she must be so confused. Hope things turn around for you.....
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Thu, 12-01-2005 - 9:31am

Hun, here's a hug for you. I don't understand either why the courts feel that even though we were abused and physically hurt that because they didn't put their hands on the children they have cart blanche to visits and to be a part of their lives. My ex attorney said that there haven't been any incidents with my ex. Yeah, cause I don't have to see or deal with him during the supervised visitation. So obviously, it's working and that's why there have been no incidents.

I would keep documenting the messages and were you able to tape any of his comments during the pick up? You're doing everything you can and I am sure Averey knows that as well. I am worried for her as well. It's not good for her to see her dad come unglued like that.

Push your attorney on Monday and keep up the good fight.
Jennifer

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Fri, 12-02-2005 - 8:53am

Oh how i WISH!

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Fri, 12-02-2005 - 8:56am

Who supervises his visitation? I dont have reallly any freind of family options - thats a huge drawback. & we have no centers. Although there is ONE place that does counseling, & sometimes they will do supervision of visits, but rarely.


I wasnt able to get anything on tape this time - but i am saving all text messages for sure. Especially the crazy ones! It just never stops.


Yesterday while ay work, I got a text ""Would like to go to tree lighting with you but you don’t love me". I of course, ignored that. Later he called about taking Averey & was extremely pleasant ... more so than any other time in the past few weeks. Well, THAT lasted 2 hours. I was out shopping last nite & got a SCREAMING phone call. Apparently he called the house & Lynn, my roomate answered & he flipped out. Saying "Who the F is living at MY house with you? That’s it!!! I NEVER want to see you OR Averey ever again!" & he hung up. Sure wish I had THAT recorded. I will find out today if recording is legal.


& yes, thank God Averey had her counselor. Even IF the jerk said horrible things about her to dd, she still really wants to keep seeing her. Thanks, R~

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Fri, 12-02-2005 - 9:22am

Currently, my ex's visitation is supervised thru the county mental health's program. I look for that to change though as apparently, I will have to give in and let my ex have visitation outside of the program. I am hoping it will at least be put off until after his probation is up and after he completes a batterer's intervention program or at least that's what I am requesting. So when it does one of his friend's mother will probably handle the visits at her house with my son's court appointed lawyer dropping in to check that the rules are being followed randomly. I know at this point, you are like me and dropped anyone who was a friend while with him and started again so I don't know if that option is available or if one of his family members, maybe his brother again could handle the visitation.

I am also requesting that my ex's girlfriend, who is nuts, no really, certifiable, will be barred from seeing or interacting with my son. She has told people she wants my baby and she has taken all my original nursery furniture and made a whole room up just for the baby(creepy huh) with a teddy bear waiting in the crib for him(they made me look at pictures of it).

You know he says he's dying. Not to sound terrible, but it he is can he please get on with it.

I'll post what happens after I go to court Monday.

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Fri, 12-02-2005 - 10:41am

I just did a search and came up with these:

RHODE ISLAND
For all sites in Rhode Island, contact Ms. Candida Periera (401) 722-3513. If no answer, contact Mark Roseman (860) 437-8010.

1. T–S South County. Multicultural Center. University of Rhode Island (serves South County), 74 Lower College Road, Kingston, RI 02881.
2. T-S Pawtucket Valley Community School (serves Providence County), 249 Roosevelt Avenue, Pawtucket, RI 02910.
3. T–S Cranston. Valley Community School (serves Kent and Washington Counties), 83 Rolfe Street, Cranston, RI 02910.
4. T-S Middletown. Valley Community School (serves Newport County), 60 Hammarlund Way, Middletown, RI 02842.

Do you know anything about these places? It says they do Transfers as well as Supervised visitation.

Also look at: http://ctchildren.tripod.com/

Hope some of this helps.
Mel