awsome link to signs of abuse

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awsome link to signs of abuse
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 9:11am

This is a great link that I found on the signs of verbal/emotional abuse. I'm so glad I found it because this fits my husband so perfectly. Even the bottom part that says, "things are critical if...." was word for word acurate. I hope this link can help some people! Samantha


http://www.drirene.com/verbal1.htm

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:38pm
I keep thinking that I am overreacting and I am not really being emotionally abused. Then I read list like this and at least 10 of the list applied to us and 5 of the critical items did. We just had our anniversery and he bought me some very nice things, took me away to a beautiful hotel, but I have such resentment over this I didnt' really enjoy myself. He also bought himself a new wedding band, saying it was for our new begining. He tries so hard but I wonder if he doesn't just have a twisted idea of what love really is.

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dd

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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 3:53pm
OMG....the list really opened my eyes. I knew I was being beaten daily for no reason, then I look at the list, how amazing it was to sit here, read it word for word and relate to each and everyone of the bullet points. I've been with this man for 11 years and I think it is time to run, run like the wind. I need sanity. I'm bipolar, and he only makes things worse. I'd much rather be alone than with a man who backhands me because he doesn't want anyone disagreeing with him. He abandoned me at the store last week. He was bagging for the checker and I said something like watch the bread, that is it. Next thing I know I pay 190 some odd dollars and he is gone....out of the store and in the truck and off he went. I sat there fuming, smoked a cigarette, drank a can of diet pepsi and literally hoped he would wreck and not make it back to pick me up. Isn't that horrible of me? I use to be so sweet with a rebel side, now the rebel is all I see lately. But anyway, he beats me up daily, I never once thought I was verbally, emotionally abused....but OMG....the list proved it.

THANK YOU FOR THE LINK!!!!!!!!

PS...This is how brazen I'm being. I'm looking at sites on the home computer about DV. I am to the point of not caring. He holds me down, holds his huge hands over my nose and mouth and I black out. Then he wants to know why I have to call off work.....I'm ashamded of the bruises. I do not want people to think I'm weak.......all I want now...is my freedom. He made me abort a baby 4 years ago this past July. I have no kids thank the good Lord. I didn't want to have the procedure....but my life depended on it.

OKAY....sorry for the novel, I simply can't go anywhere else to talk.

Carla

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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 4:08pm

Carla,


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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 4:51pm
Carla,

Write a novel to the board any time you need to. We're here for you. I'm worried about you though. Please get some help and get out. You deserve more. We all do. I'm so sorry about the abortion. That should be a woman's choice, not something forced on her. Anyway, good luck, and let us know if we can help.

-Becky