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| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:58pm |
I have an 11 year old. He has Bipolar I and on medication. We just moved about 8 months ago to get away from his dad who was very abusive to me and to him and his brothers. You name it hes done it. We had to move out of state because of him. We had to leave our whole family behind to be safe. But he is having a hard time of it. He doesn't make friends well, and its not because he's mean to them he just attracks the wrong kind of friends. He complains he's bored but yet he doesn't want to do anything. All he does is set around and sulk or sleep. He gets really angry and has his out bursts becase he gets all worked up. He goes to counceling twice a week. He sees a psychiatrist every two weeks. I'm at a loss he cries because he wants to go back home. I know he misses are family. But we can't go back because its not safe.
I am just so scared that I'm losing him. I have two other children that I'm trying to take care of that have emotional and mental problems also. My mom and dad are there to talk to when I need to cry or let off steam but they can't help other than that because they live about 6 hours away. I get so anrgy at my ex husband because he put us in this situation. And that he didn't realize and still hasn't that he really did some major damage to these kids and it kills me to see my kids struggling so much. They deserve the best and I don't know what to do.

Hi Smiley, welcome back -
Best thing I can suggest is to contact your local shelter, either through local contacts or through the National DV Hotline (800-799-SAFE) and see about getting some counseling that is specific to DV for all four of you.
I say this because as brilliant as many counselors are, many of them, especially ones that deal with kids, don't have the knowledge to deal with the specific mechanics of abuse and what emotional problems it can wreak on not only adults, but kids, too.
CL-Blueliner4
sampo