Battered girlfriend? Is that me?
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Battered girlfriend? Is that me?
| Sat, 01-08-2005 - 2:03pm |
This is my first time on this board. And I honestly never thought i'd ever need to visit here with a story of my own. I usualy frequent parenting boards and sometimes the communication boards on relationships. My fiance and I've been together almost 3 years. We have an 18 month old daughter together,she was a total surprise; kind of slipped past our "radars"... Anyway, we have communication problems that we used to be able to fix. And the last year our communication probs have become verbaly abusive when we argue, the arguements turning into full blown verbal attacks. On what I can't honestly say. Tiny, little, nitty gritty details... Well, we never actualy cam to physical blows. I mean, the most we ever did was me telling him I'm leaving, or calling the cops if he didn't let me and him restraining me. he never hurt me intentionaly, I fought to get away and that's how such things like bruises arose. Honestly. But last week, after a night of celebrating with a few friends at our apartment, drinking involved, things got heated. My fiance and i hardly ever drink. But when we do, he neve seems to know his limits and gets drunk every time. Well, he stayed up all night drinking with friends while i went to bed. The next morning, he was passed out on the couch and i went to wake him, we had things to do. That's were it started. First verbal things, he's a bear to wake up anyway, then throwing things, like him picking up my daughters toy. So it contnued into our bedroom, where i was telling him if he didnt let me leave i was calling someone. Once again we were at the point of him not letting me leave the house. He said if i picked up the phone to "do what i had to do," then he'd "do what he had to do." Well, i cant take challenges and God forbid someone tell me what i can't do, i picked up the phone. he kicked out his foot and it hit me in the stomache but not very hard, then he grabbed me around my knees and as we fell to the bed, he bit me on my right hip, very deep. It bleed quite a bit and it's still bruised. Then as i was lieing on my back telling him it was over or something liek that, he sat up and slammed his palm down onto my face, bruising my right side. I'm surprised i never fought back or even hit him back because I'm a fighter when i'm getting assualted. Now, keep in mind he was still "buzzing" from the drink from the night before, had only been passed out for about 3 hours, if that. And later my friends told me he was extremly inibreated and talking nonsense they couldnt understand. So, at first, he was apoligetic throughout the day, after he'd slept abit and woke sober, and he was apoligetic for the next day...but that was it. Now, it's back to normal arguments and i can't believe i'm still dealing with this because i always said if anyone ever touched me then that was it. i realize that our little fight is nothing compared to some of what these other women on this board go throuh but it still hurts and i guess i just need closure. I don't realy know. Anyway, thanks for reading...
