The BIG DAY is upon us!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2004
The BIG DAY is upon us!
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Sat, 10-21-2006 - 2:15am
well tuesday we go to court on the charges of his B and E into our home which he was refused access to by the courts, with intent to assault, as well as the breech on the order of protection/ no contact...im was SO nervous the past two weeks but now im pretty calm about it. i know that i can't do anything except tell the truth...i have a meeting with the crown prosecutor at 1:30 on tuesday to discuss what i want the end result of this to be, and then she will meet with his attorney to see if they can come to some sort of a deal so they do not have to go into court and i wont have to testify...i really just want him to be forced into counselling, as well as to finish his GED so he can join the military and get out of here and away from me...im also asking that as part of the conditions that the restraining order be kept into place as long as possible, as i worry he will take this as a free ticket to call me as much as he wants...and unfortunately, the man i have been seeing is out of town for a week for work and i wont really have anyone to help me out...but im just looking forward to it being all done, no more anxiety beyond the divorce proceedings which will be easy due to our prenup and the fat that its basically, what i went into it with, i get, what he went into it with, he gets(not much) and what we made together, we split 50/50...anyways my vitim services worker is going to sit in the "soft"room with me while we wait to be called to testify, and then im going straight to the family services building to sign up for one on one counselling and some classes for women dealing with the after effects of domestic abuse...its all paid for by our gov't, so im going to take full advantage of this...but one thing that my VS worker said may come up if i testify is if i have a new b/f(she said some lawyers ask this to prove that i made this stuff up to be able to divorce him easily and move on) and i told her i will not answer that question as that would make the harassment worse if it happens, and i know hed go to all lengths to find out who the man is...anyways...that was probably really long and thanks to those who read all of itim just so glad ive had this board as my sounding-board and a place where i can see im not alone!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2006
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 4:36pm

Good Luck on Tuesday and keep us posted on how it goes.
Just be strong, You'll do great!

Lauren :o)

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