Big scene last night . . .

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Big scene last night . . .
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:35am
. . . when I went to pick Caesar up from XH's house. His sister was there to let me in (since he's already changed the locks). She had a friend of hers with her also. I brought my Mom with me.

When we got there, my Mom and I went to the door. His sister was waiting for us and had Caesar shut in the dining room so he couldn't get to me right away. She asked me if there was any way I would let her buy Caesar from me! Can you believe that?!?! As IF!!! So I told her, "Absolutely not." She started in about how I'm not being fair to him because I'm taking him out of his "home," putting him in a different environment, and introducing him to other dogs (my BF's dogs). So I said, "He's my dog, I have always taken care of him, and I intend to continue doing so." Then I walked past her, into the kitchen, and started to get his stuff together.

Then, I took his stuff out to my Mom's Passport and came back into the house to get him. He was *still* in the dining room with her friend, and she was still in the kitchen. She said, "Isn't it funny how you said he's 'your dog' and you never said you love him? He's just a piece of property to you!"

Remember, *I'm* not the one who tried to "buy" him! Also, she knows full well that throughout Caesar's entire life, *I* have been the one who has taken care of him, NOT the XH! I've always taken him, usually by myself, to grooming appointments, vet appointments, to get his dog license renewed, etc. Also, I've always been the one who has ordered and paid for food and medication for him, NEVER the XH!!! I was absolutely livid at this point, but I was NOT going to get into an argument with her. So, I just said, "You know that's not true," and left it at that. I started toward the dining room door to get him, and she put her hand on my arm to stop me. I just said, "Excuse me, please." She said, "I'll see that he is released in a minute." Then, she started telling me about how I "lied and brought her into it." What she meant by that, I have no idea. Then she told her friend to open the dining room door so Caesar could come out. (He was absolutely *ecstatic* to see me, since they had not let me see him in a couple weeks.) Then, she told me that, since I was not willing to sell Caesar to her, she would have to "make trouble" for me. I'm not sure if she means with my job, my mortgage (which I'm in the process of finalizing), or something even worse. I told her to do whatever she had to do, but to remember that I have a lot of "dirt" on XH, which I don't want to use, but I will if I have to. I then asked her if Caesar had been outside lately. She said, "Yes, he's been well taken care of." So I said, "Well thank you for doing that." Then, she said, "Oh, you won't be thanking me in the long run." At that point, I just left.

BTW, Caesar had just been groomed THAT DAY, and the dog poop had just been cleaned up out of the yard either that day or the day before. Caesar has not been to the groomer even one time since I left back in October, up until yesterday. Also, the yard was absolutely disgusting every time I stopped by to check on him, and even on the day when I had people there to help me move my stuff, back in early January. XH was probably cleaning it once a month, if even that often! So, obviously, someone was trying to put on a good show.

I've already informed my boss (who is also my attorney) as to what went on last night. So, if she calls or shows up here or sends anything here, he will be aware of the situation. He told me not to worry, because no one here is going to entertain anything like that from her. So, that gave me a *little* more confidence.

I was just really hoping everything would go smoothly last night, so I could just forget about this whole horrible situation. Unfortunately, I guess I should have known better! :o(

~Emm

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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:57am

Ahhhh, your XH is a little weak boy, he can't fight his own battles, so he has his sister do it for him.

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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 11:58am

A-men, Wishful!


CL-Blueliner4

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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 12:31pm
Kristen & Gabby, you guys are right. She's trying to bait me is all. I refused to take the bait, though, so she got pissed off. I guess she thought she could threaten me and I'd just say, "OK, you can have Caesar, I don't care." AS IF!!! I don't bend quite that easy! BTW, she's like 36 or 37 years old now? Can you believe an adult of her age would act like that? Even worse, she's a bank officer at the bank where my checking and savings accounts are! (Don't worry, I'm planning to switch banks ASAP, but I need to wait for my mortgage company to tell me if it's OK to do that in the middle of the mortgage process or not. At the *very least*, I'm going to switch banks before we move to the new house so she won't have my new address!)

Love & Hugs,

Emm

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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 1:05pm

EEEEEEEEePPPPPPPPPP!

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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 2:02pm
Emm,

I'm sorry things did not go smoothly. It's a shame when people feel the need to cause trouble. At least you were able to pick up Caesar. I'll bet he was a big comfort to you. And it's so great to have a supportive boss. Hang in there. Everything will turn out just fine.

Jen