This book hits home
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| Sun, 06-13-2004 - 2:11pm |
My bf went through 2 days of near normality and I enjoyed it thoroughly. Now he is back in the habit, and I am really shaky and annoyed and angry. In any case, yesterday I went to the library and picked up a book called "Verbally Abusive Relationships" by Patricia Evans, and I feel like she wrote it by following us around!!!!
Of course, he has abused me far more than verbally, but this book hits home SOOOO bad. Something I just read made me get on the computer and write to you all. It says "Interestingly, when a verbal abuser is berating his partner, he may actually be describing himself." I started laughing out loud. More often than I care to think about, he will start saying "you are so irritable and mean and moody...." etc and I always say, "you are describing yourself!" Well now I know it's true!
It's so sad to read that we are all such loving and compassionate women, that we are willing to accept some jerk's idea that there's something wrong with us and we actually question them about it. For example, if your partner says, "You are so incompetent." We don't say, "I am not, now stop it!" We say, "Why do you think that?" DO NOT EVER DO THAT AGAIN LADIES!
If you haven't read it, go and get it! I am so impressed I can't put it down! No book has ever described what I am going through more accurately and in perfect sequence, as this one does! It brings me an odd sort of comfort and sadness in it's truth.
I'm sure a lot of you have read it already, but those who haven't, go take a peek. I don't feel so alone anymore and I'm only on page 50.
Have a good day!
StarKes

I understand how you feel about that book. I felt just the same when I read it. It is great that you are not feeling so alone anymore.
Hugs
Christine