Bracing myself for social outing

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Registered: 04-12-2003
Bracing myself for social outing
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Fri, 05-13-2005 - 2:19am

My h and I are going out to dinner Saturday went 3 couples that we only see about twice a year. I want to go because I enjoy visiting with these friends, but I don't want to go with him. He thrives on situations like these to embarrass me in front of our friends. The last time we went to dinner, I guess I went overboard in my excitement on seeing our friends, because he told me to settle down right in front of them. Then a little later, I spoke spanish to the waiter, because he had mixed up our appetizer order, so when we started ordering the entrees I decided to just order in Spanish so we could get it right. My h proceeded to tell our entire table, "there I go showing off that I can speak Spanish!" Luckily one of our friends told my h that I was just trying to make sure our order went well. This is what I have to look forward to this Saturday. If it wasn't that it was a trip outside the house for me, I wouldn't dare go, I can't tell him to not say things either, last time I did that he said he could say anything he wants.

I know there are worse things that can happen, so I should just suck it up and be happy and grateful that I'm going out to eat somewhere and will get to enjoy my friends, even if I can't let my hair down. I'm always trying to find that silver lining.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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Registered: 05-02-2005
Fri, 05-13-2005 - 4:33pm
Order something you really enjoy, try to sit between two of your friends, and try not to let him spoil your fun! If your friends have even an ounce of sense, they will realize that he is being a jerk and will, hopefully, do their best to redirect the conversation to make you more comfortable.
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Registered: 04-12-2003
Fri, 05-13-2005 - 9:15pm

Good idea! Thanks. I know there are worse things that women are going through, it's just hard to deal with public embarrassment.

Thanks again.