Brief update....

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Brief update....
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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 9:42am
Haven't been around in AGES, but am reading with frequency! I FINALLY finished up my last paper for graduate school and will graduate on May 15th!! I'm so relieved that its done....it took me 6 years to get my Masters, and fighting h tooth and nail to do it, but I DID IT!

I got myself a job, too, which starts on 6/13. I will be working as an Investigator with the Federal government....the pay starts out ok (much better than my last job) and will rise significantly in the next 3 years.

My h is still at home; I still have my lawyer on retainer...but I haven't told to file the paperwork yet. I don't know what is making me hesitate at this point because I know the marriage is done. I've even told my h so much as this....and he's taking it in stride. He's not happy, but he's not saying much of anything. He continues to go to his therapy, but really, I don't give a flying hoot what he does anymore. Basically, he has his life...and he has stopped interfering with mine---that, and I've stopped handing over my power to him. He can't take anything I don't give to him...and guess what? he aint getting.

That being said and done.....I still have to get that push to tell the lawyer to "proceed".

sigh....but on the bright side....I have my Masters and a JOB! baby steps, baby steps

dharma

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 1:26pm

Dharma, those ARE NOT baby steps!

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 02-10-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 1:35pm
Hi Dharma,

Sounds like everything is starting to go your way, at least in the other part of your life. You have a lot of things to get done the next month, so at least that will keep you busy. I am so glad h finally quit crying for a while. Still be careful because once you start doing things to make you happy that's when he will probably start demanding more attention!

Terry

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Registered: 12-06-2001
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 5:59pm

So, in kicking out the abuser, what's stopping you?

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 9:50pm
Good for you, dharma!!! I agree with the other post....those aren't baby steps....they're giant leaps for you. Now just a few more giant leaps to file those papers. Congratulations!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 11:06pm
Woohoo!!!

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou