Calling police will make it worse
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Calling police will make it worse
| Sat, 12-25-2004 - 7:34am |
What do you do when calling the police to remove him will only make it worse once he gets out of jail? When you will have all his friends looking for you if you did call? And when you really have nowhere to go even if you could get him out the house? I keep praying and praying that he will leave. I know about abused women shelters and places like that but I have 4 dogs, pit bulls, and he's threatened to kill them if I ever left. He's already stabbed one of them. He'll call me on the phone on days I have the strength to say oh well I’m out of here and let me here him beating on them. Some might say they are just dogs but to me they are my children. We don't have any children but my dogs are my love. They are abused too. Whenever he is around the pull their ears back and put their tails between their legs and run like heck into their cages. My oldest dog (who I had before we started dating and he doesn't like because I got her with my ex) just starts crying whenever she walks by him. She gets it the worst because he knows I love her the most. He treats her like someone would treat a child they don't like because it's by someone else. He stabbed my oldest male dog because he pee'd in his cage while he was standing there because he was nervous about being beaten. We still sleep in the same bed together on nights when he doesn't fall asleep in the basement. The night before last my scarf fell off in my sleep. He was trying to be nice and put in back on my head but I woke up screaming because I thought he was trying to choke me. I'm so messed up. With good reason. I just don't know what to do but pray. Everyone says call the cops and let them deal with it, even his mother. But I know that if I do he'll get out on bail and even if I change the locks he will sit out side until he sees me. Hide around a corner until I open the door, force himself back into the house and that will be the last anyone here's from me. I am not dealing with a man who respects the law by any circumstances. I don't know how it came to this. I mean I do know, I didn't leave when I had the chance because I thought I could help him change. I realize now that I can't help him or anyone change. He likes who he is. He brags to his friends about having me in check and putting me in my place and tells them that if a female gets out of line this is how you treat them. His friends humor him of course. One guy stands up to him (his best friend) and tells him it's not right but he doesn't listen. Whenever his BestF is around and we are fighting (which is me running and him swinging) he always tries to stop him and calm him down but not even his friend can calm him. I thought being with an aggressive man would mean he would protect me, we don't live in the best neighborhood, but now I realize that he is beyond aggressive and down right abusive through and through. If my father found out, he would kill him and go to jail and I don't ever want that. My mother would not be able to survive without her husband and I wouldn't be able to live knowing my bad decisions landed my father in jail, although he'd be happy to do it. My mother would never forgive me. Never. She's just like that. I could go stay with a girlfriend but most of them have apartments and the one girl who has a house, her husband doesn't like dogs. So I couldn't bring one dog to her house let alone 4. I'm just going to keep praying and all of you out there who believe in the power of prayer please do the same for me. Pray that I am delivered from my situation and that this boy (he's hardly a man) is removed from my life forever. I feel like I'm enslaved. Sorry to dump this on Christmas but since this is the most sacred holiday I figured maybe a miracle would happen for me. That would be the best gift EVER.

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