Can't take this!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2006
Can't take this!
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Thu, 01-19-2006 - 3:53pm

URGHHH!!
Ever since I left my husband one week ago I have been hearing from so many people that I'm just using the abuse as an excuse to get out of the relationship. These are people that know the whole story! They know about the shoving, headbutting, choking, and all the fear. What's wrong with these people??? These are people I respect. They aren't all my husband's family, I expect some resistance out of them. Is this really so widespread that people think it is normal, or am I overreacting to things that have happened to me? I feel like maybe they are right, maybe I am just looking for an excuse to get out of my relationship. But then why did I feel so lonely, afraid, and empty when I lived with him? I almost feel ashamed to tell people about the real story if they will be thinking bad things about me. I keep thinking about what my mother-in-law said:
"How does she think you are supposed to fight?? You can't just draw straws!"
Can you believe she said that! It makes me so ANGRY! And this was the woman cheering me on several months ago, telling me how much of an a** my husband is and that she would've left a long time ago. At least I have my parents on my side, and the women's shelter. And you guys. I love you guys for being here for me and letting me know that I am not overreacting, and this is a real BIG problem!

Hugs,
K

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2005
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 4:15pm
I dont think you are overreacting at all. You shouldnt respect people that dont respect your choice to get out of an unhealthy relationship. You are a strong woman, and you should be proud of yourself. You are grown, and if you want out, for whatever reason, you have the right to leave. And he put his hands on you. The first time was enough to leave. If you are content with your decision, than that is all that matters.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 9:22pm

Oh, now that makes me MAD!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 10:31am
Pure ignorance. That's what's wrong with them. People fall for the perpetrators pitiful victim act or they don't want to deal with the "nasty" divorce or whatever. Frankly, it's not their life or their choice. They don't know what it's like to have to live with that tyrant so need to keep their ignorant opinions to themselves. One thing's for sure, they'll all get over it. You do what you have to do and don't worry about what others think. They WILL deal with it and get over it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 12:27am
These people are NOT your freinds & do NOT have your best interests at heart. I woudl cut off contact with anyone who treats you like that.

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