Checking in....after a long time

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Checking in....after a long time
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 12:01pm
Boy I havent been to this board for over a year or more. I just thought I'd pop in and see if I still knew anyone...sweetdreams the cl looks familiar but I cant remember any other names. I want to let everyone who post here know that this board helped me get my life back! I was married to an abusive man for 12-1/2 years. My life is wonderful now, I am free! Leaving was the best thing I have ever done! I want you all to know that I know it may seem impossible and it IS a very hard step to take, but it is all worth it in the end!! I have been out for 20 months now. I cant even believe I was in the situation I was, my life has changed so much, it seems like another life (actually it is!). To all that have come to this board....listen to each other here and post give your opions and help each other heal!

I wish you all happiness......You deserve it.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 1:03pm

Goodness me, two in one day!


Hi Brwnid!

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 8:58pm
brwnid girl!!

Hey - I'm so happy to hear from you and that things are going well for you. I often wonder about some of the ones that were posting as I was joining the board. I have learned so much here, the unfortunate fact is , I have yet to act on anything I learned. Guess I'm still learning!!

But I'm ok with where I'm at. I have good times, I have bad times. But I see and understand so much. I am now looking at me and why I am SO afraid of not having his approval and ok. Must be that child in me looking for approval from her daddy (lol). Ah, well, life goes on.

Take care and it was fantastic to hear from you and that things are going great for you. Wow - 20 months. And look where I am still. Give me a push!!

take care,

Pam

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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 8:33am
Aaawwww Pam, it's great to hear from you!! I didn't think anyone would remember me. My divorce was final June of 2003 :)! The kids and I live alone, I have a boyfriend who is a really nice guy. My x doesn't bother me at all, which was one of my biggest fears. He doesnt see the kids too much, his parents get them every other weekend. He lives with them but is out drinking so much he is usually sleeping off a hangover when they're there. They have ajusted well and I think they are much happier. He doesn't pay child support like he is supposed to, as I expected, but we are making it without him and his money or lack of! He has a court date on Sept 7th.

Don't be hard on yourself for not making a move. When you are ready you will do it. Keep working on yourself and you will eventually do what is right. It takes time. The night we split I just snapped. Not in a bad way, I was just done. It was very empowering, nothing he said or did got to me. I think if you leave before you are truly ready, you are more likely to return. Hang in there and give yourself a big hug from me.

Liz