checking in - it's been awhile

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Registered: 06-14-2005
checking in - it's been awhile
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 1:00pm

Things are the same but I am socking money away little by little to be able to leave. I had a one on one with H's psychiatrist who continues to advise me that I should tell my H how I feel and that I want to leave, this would serve as a wake up call. But I am sticking to my instincts and I know that you just can't communicate with abusers. They do not process information like healthy people would. I need to just take the steps to take care of myself and kids. The psychiatrist also told me that I am responsible for the situation because I never set up boundaries. I disagreed with him on this too. Granted I should share some of that responsibility but at the same time, I grew up with a very controlling and abusive father. This is all I knew, until my eyes were opened.

Friday we have a joint meeting with the psychiatrist. I will just clam up the entire session while my husband rants and raves.... What a waste of time, there's no point in talking when you can't get thru....