child support negotiation

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child support negotiation
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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 7:33pm
When I came home today, in the mail was a notice from the Attny general's office that we are scheduled for a negotiation conference. I didn't know anything about this. The last thing in the world I want is to be in the same room with my ex husband. There is a phone number to call if I think there might be safety issues. Ill definitely be calling that number Monday.

Also, the conferenece is scheduled for this next friday! One day before my due date! The timing is awful. And now I'm so stressed. I'm also going to call my dv org to see if the legal advocate can come with me.

I really don't want to do this at all! I just want to vomit and cry and scream all at the same time.
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Sat, 08-27-2011 - 7:56am

WOOOO-HOOOOO CHIPPER!!!!

Mama Harmony

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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 10:31am
While I appreciate your kind words, I really feel like I'm just shutting down. I visited the mo-in-law yesterday who started trying to sneakily press for more information about "my story," which was really just horrendous timing. Then, we didn't get home until nearly midnight and then I tossed and turned all night. My stomach has been cramping like crazy and back hurts worse than ever. So, this morning - on the way to work - I completely left the paperwork with the info on the negotiation and the family violence number at home. I feel like I'm just not on top of things at all. While I feel like I really need to take some of my own advice, and just take it all in bite-sized bits so I can handle this, the time pressure is just maddening. I know there has to be a way to reschedule this, but I feel like putting it off until tomorrow makes that less and less likely. I just feel so totally not in control today. Work has already been stressful this morning. It all just feels like too much. I'm so overwhelmed and I don't feel like I'm handling this. I just want to hide my head in the sand, but I know I can't.
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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 10:04am
I called the number and because of the history of family violence, it will skip the negotiation conference and go right to court, which will have a date set for a few months down the road. That definitely gives me more time to prepare and get settled with the newborn. Apparently the child support review is something that the attny general's ofc does every 3 years, so it wasn't requested by the ex-husband. I'm feeling calmer and more collected. Sorry for the small freak-out.
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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 8:19pm

Chipper, no need to apologize.

Mama Harmony