I'm feeling very anxious tonight.
I'm sorry but, if you have a restraining order, and he comes there, you WILL call the police, because even if you DID invite him, he is breaking the law!
sweets35, I had typed this reply to you yesterday but I see it didn't go through..how frustrating is that !
Anyway..I just wanted to say - is there a way you can get an alarm installed and monitored. So he breaks in, the alarm company will get notified and they will be right there.
Also about your saying he can tell this to the police and all that, you think given his record and history, who is the police likely to believe? keep all records of everything including missed calls, emails..Keep your phone with you at all times..
keeping you in my thoughts and prayers..stay strong..Dont let him intimidate you..one thing I do is when worry gets you down..journalize and write out plan B..sometimes our worries might be getting carried away..hey..I have been there..look where it landed me..too paralyzed to do anything..
Hey winter, I was thinking about you.
Why don't you GET a restraining order?
If you have it in text or e-mail about him threatening to claim you invited hi/beat him etc...no worries. Let him call. you can show the police the evidence of him threatening to do just what he is doing and if the police have any brains they will arrest him for harassment, trespass, filing a false report and a number of other things. Also the CPS thing...I can only think that the social worker was trying to intimidate you into staying far way from him and doing the no contact just to keep from loosing your children. Etiher that or didnt you say one of the social workers hooked up with him? perhaps at that time they were believing his BS and were taking a prejiduce against you which was wrong on their part. Regardless they cannot threaten you to keep you from calling for help when your abuser is attacking you...did you get it in writing what the social worker said? that might help in defense of yourself should they truly try to take your children away...they told you that you cannot call for help or they would take your children away, that is putting the children in more harms way....There is just so much information we do not know for sure here so it is hard to judge. Regardless get it in writing and save it for if he does try one of his stupid stunts you can call the police and then show them his own words of making false claims and bulling and intimidating you....
It's not like that.
Here's the exact wording on the "safety plan"